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Unintended side effect



I keep trying to write a fertility-related post but can’t seem to crank out the words. Maybe tomorrow will be better. Until then, I will post about something trivial and probably not worthy of its own post: my hair.

Last week after a particularly rough day stuck in the Ortho Tri-Cyclen Cycle of Crazy (which goes kind of like this: THE RAGE followed by the sad followed by the soothe with dessert or carbs followed again by THE RAGE because oh my gosh lady, the last thing your chubby belly needs is more carbs) I went to the hair stylist.

Tip No. 1: You should not get your hair done when feeling intense self-hatred. Nothing good will come of it. 

Earlier that day I noticed a girl at the gym who was at least 10 years younger than me and had beautifully colored hair. All these long strands of varying shades of blonde cascaded down her back. So soft and fresh looking. I looked at my dark hair with a partial golden highlight and decided then and there it was time to go all out and do a full light blonde highlight.

My stylist asked if I was sure and I nonchalantly said, “Of course! It’s just hair! It will always grow back.”

Tip No. 2: If your stylist has to confirm that you really want to do something you should probably reconsider. 

Two hours later my hair was heavily highlighted a kind of honey golden color (super white blonde just won’t happen on this dark hair) and I am fighting back tears. It’s different and it’s frizzy and this hormonal lady hates her some frizzy hair.

I manage to keep it together until I get home and then have a total freak out with Mr. Husband. As always, he patiently tells me I’m pretty and that it does not look that bad. Yes, it is a lot of highlighting, and yes it’s rather frizzy, but maybe I need some new product and to give it some time.

Tip No. 3: If you do No. 1 and No. 2, make sure Mr. Husband is armed with wine and chocolate when you come home. You are both going to need it.

After 24 hours and another $65 in products (someone really needs to get a grip on herself…) and I’m feeling a little bit better. The highlights are not bad, but they are a far cry from my former shiny locks and I’m afraid they are going to start breaking off. In effort to keep the hair on my head and not on the floor with all the cat fur, I formulated a “Save Belle’s Hair From Breaking Off Plan.” Obsessive? Yes. But isn’t that why you come here? To read about someone far more obsessive than yourself and feel better? I thought so!

  • Use damage remedy shampoo and conditioner exclusively
  • Twice a week do a deep conditioning treatment
  • Before each styling apply a repair/protect serum
  • Limit flat-iron and blow-drier time
  • Only wash my hair every-other day

This last one freaks me out. I have had thin hair my entire life. Skipping a shampoo was never an option if I wanted to avoid looking like I had not paid my water bill.*

However, the prospect of all this frizzy blonde hair breaking off and leaving me with even thinner hair than before was too much, so I sucked it up and went the first day without washing my hair. The night before I had slept funny and my bald spot was very visible** so I opted to pull half the hair up in clips. Problem solved and a full day passed with no one saying “Hot damn Belle! Did you slide into work today on a layer of grease?”

We are on Day Three of not washing and I'm not wiping grease from my eyes yet...

The next time I washed my hair I was a little more careful with how I slept on it and low-and-behold the bald spot was still well concealed on Day Two and I was able to keep my hair down again. Day Three rolled around this morning and I was running super late. I looked in the mirror and, shockingly, the front of the hair did not look that bad. A quick peek at the back revealed the bald spot, but even that was not terrible and the hair itself did not look that dirty. So I pulled half-up, brushed my bangs down and off I went.

Halfway through Day Three after a 3 mile walk and a quick lunch-break run it still looks ok! The real test will come tonight when Mr. Husband strokes my head during snuggle time. He would never actually ask if I forgot to pay the water bill, but he is a terribly transparent and I always know when something strikes him a grody.

I’m actually pretty stoked about this. Washing and styling hair is such a drag. I envy my girlfriends with thick hair that can go three and four days between washes and still look good. If these highlights give me the ability to cut wash time in half I’ll be a pretty happy camper. If the hair remains on my head and does not break off I’ll be even happier.

Time will tell, I guess. Until then, I’m going to proudly go about my day with dirty hair. I paid good money to be able to slack on personal hygiene!

* Yes, I actually think this from time-to-time when someone shuffles by with exceptionally greasy hair. In my defense, I used to be that greasy person who had her water cut off many moons ago when I valued extra-circular activities over bill paying. I know. Shame. On. Me. On so many fronts.

** Yes, my bald spot is likely punishment from The Universe for making fun of people with greasy hair.



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  1. March 19, 2012

    Your hair is adorable! So is the person UNDER that hair!

    I feel your pain with the grease, though…as a kid, I thought it was so cool to have super greasy hair that stayed in place when you moved it.


  2. March 19, 2012

    I am also a hair freak – if your hair looks bad, you look bad….and my poor husband has suffered many meltdowns when I refuse to leave the house because of bad hair….including one very bad, homone rage induced episode where my hair looked greasy already as I was blowdrying it and I threw my blowdryer across the room…..not my finest moment.
    I do have to tell you though about my favorite product of ALL time – Kevin Murphy’s fresh hair (dry shampoo) is to DIE for. You just spray in where needed on roots and give a good rub in with a cloth, hair is grease free and has volume. I ALWAYS have a bottle and a backup bottle. And have since become the biggest slacker ever on hair washing.
    I like the highlights 🙂 fun change, and huge perk if you don’t have to wash!

  3. March 19, 2012

    Love the new ‘do! I use Fresh Hair, too (millionbabysteps comment above ^)! I totally recommend it!

  4. March 19, 2012

    I’ve had a rough hair week too! My last haircut was very mullet-esque and will need some time to grow out. I think you and your hair look ADORABLE : )

  5. March 19, 2012

    Sounds like you and I have the same kind of hair. I REALLY recommend using Ojon Restorative Hair Treatment. If my hair is feeling really dry and frizzy, I’ll rub my dry hair down with it and leave it on over night. Washing in the morning. It really helps.

  6. March 19, 2012

    Honey, you are not crazy. Or maybe you are and we’re just in the crazy club together! I had blonde hair growing up and sometime in HS during my most insecure years my hair decided to turn to dirty dishwasher light brown. So I’ve spent around 10 years bouncing between levels of blonde and have had MANY days like you described going into the salon convinced that the bright blonde highlights were going to give me the lift I needed. Instead my hair just got ugly and frizzy and fell out from damage (p.s. find a salon that uses non-bleach highlights, it exists and is amazing!). I’ve also spent a FORTUNE on products trying to repair and manage it. So I’m going to give you my secret weapon to consistent 3 days between hair washes. Now don’t go cheap on me and try another brand, you will be INCREDIBLY disappointed. This is the ONLY one that works, and trust me I’ve tried them all.

    I can’t even find it in stores anymore so I buy 3 at a time from Amazon 🙂

    P.s. I think your hair looks awesome for third day hair. No shame in pulling it back the third day!

  7. March 19, 2012

    I totally agree with #1. I recently cut my bangs after a weekend of horrible self-esteem. Luckily it turned out okay. I think your hair looks great! And honestly the hardest part of not washing your hair every day is the first week, after that your hair becomes used to it and will not get as greasy. Your plan is good and you look beautiful 🙂

  8. veetamia #
    March 19, 2012

    You look amazing! And changes are [for the most part] always good 😉 I started spacing out my hair washing after an incredibly cold winter in Germany (now I get why people over here don’t wash their hair as often! It will freeze!!). You’ll see that it’ll start getting healthier and shinier with time!

  9. March 19, 2012

    Oh no for emotional decisions!

    I dyed the crap out of my hair a year or so ago and am still paying the price because it was very badly damaged. My new stylist recommended this and I love it. It helped strengthen my hair, fixed damage, and smoothed it out.

    But for what it’s worth, I actually like the color and agree with the rest….you’re still beautiful!

  10. March 20, 2012

    Hehe, you said ‘grody’. I haven’t heard that from anyone else in ages!

    I generally go every other day for washing my hair. It was harder in the beginning, but your scalp actually gets quite used to it.

    You’re picture, hair and all, is quite cute. I hope you’re enjoying it a bit more now and that the rage has gone away. It’s a good post though.

  11. March 21, 2012

    I have thin hair too. I used to have a ton of it, but as soon as I went off the BCP it fell out! I have a bald spot about an inch from my center part on the right side near the front. It is totally noticeable when I put my hair up. I love your pic! So jealous you can pull off such cute bangs!

  12. March 23, 2012

    Love your look.

    Few years ago I shaved my hair all off for a cancer benefit. That was the best thing I could have done for my hair ever, my new hair was so healthy!! Then I started putting dy on again ….

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