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How the Photo Challenge Helped Me Find Beauty Again



This post is way overdue…

The March Photo Challenge helped me rediscover a love for photography that had been pushed aside by infertility. I remembered how important it is to have hobbies that bring you joy and provide an escape.

I have toyed with buying a new camera for months now, but had promised myself I would not until we were 6 months pregnant. I have no idea why the 6 month mark was important. Looking back it was really quite ridiculous. Being 6 months pregnant is no guarantee that a baby will come home with you.

“It seems so foolish and wasteful to spend a pile of money on a camera to essentially photograph my cats and my friends’ children,” I told Mr. Husband when he would instruct me to ‘just buy one, damn it.’ “Plus, surely buying a camera before I was 6 months pregnant would jinx the entire thing and leave me barren and sad for life.”

Totally irrational,  I know.

By the end of the March Photo Challenge it was clear that a new camera was money well spent. Photography gave me something to do in the evening rather than read IF blogs and madly Google live birth rates with FETs. Every morning I woke with a refreshed spirit and an unclouded creative eye that made me smile and think.

Last week I bit the bullet and bought a used Nikon D90 and two lenses. It arrived this week and I took it out for our first rendezvous last night. I sure have a lot to learn about SLRs but I’m excited for the challenge. I have a digital photography textbook that has been collecting dust for a few years that I think I’ll breakout and start working my way through. I’m excited to photograph our adventures again, and to actually post them to our Adventures in Marriage blog, which has been sadly neglected since Infertility came to stay.

I’m going to try and share photos with you all on a weekly basis, too. A few blogs I read do a weekly photo post, where they put up 7 photos from the past 7 days and share a sentence or two about them. Wait… Yoda says try does not exist. Do or do not. So I’m going to Do. I WILL share photos with you each week that will chronicle what I’m learning and my daily adventures. It is my goal to find photos that have nothing to do with infertility and everything to do with all the other joy and wonder in my life that is to often overshadowed by the big barren uterus in the room.

Notes: Photos are of  Z, my friend Kami’s daughter. I adore Z. She is brimming with creativity and eccentricity. She finds wonder in everything and is a constant inspiration for us and our journey to have our own child. She is also absolutely beautiful and super easy to photograph! Photos taken Thursday, April 19 at the UK Arboretum. 



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  1. April 20, 2012

    Belle, I love this idea. I absolutely think you should crank your photography into gear! I have been wanting to get a higher end camera and start learning the tricks of the trade as well. Photography is very meditative, and a great way not to dwell so much on the IF related stuff. There is a fantastic blog called The Pioneer Woman–she has been writing for years, and has an entire section of the blog dedicated to learning digital photography and photoshop. She, too, discovered her passion for photography through her blog. Looking forward to seeing all of your pics!

    • April 20, 2012

      Ooooh, I had forgotten about the Pioneer Woman! I’ll have to revisit her site. Thanks for reminding!

  2. April 20, 2012

    Your photos are beautiful!

    I think this is a great idea. I had made a habit of making a “date” with my bike and camera every Sunday. I’d spend an hour or two biking around the city, taking pictures. Most of them weren’t any good, but it was a fun hobby. Sadly, I stopped going on my Sunday bike/camera dates when I started ttc. Maybe it’s time to get back to that.

    • April 20, 2012

      This sounds absolutely delightful. Again, it makes me sad that we all are scattered across the globe like we are. I would love to bike and shoot with you one Sunday!

  3. April 20, 2012

    Congrats on your new camera 🙂 and what a great idea with a weekly photo post, it’s a great distraction.

  4. April 20, 2012

    It’s so important to remember who we are through all of this. I have been itching to get back into artmaking, too. I miss being myself. I enjoy seeing your weekly photos!!

    • April 20, 2012

      um.. I WILL enjoy seeing your weekly photos! I mean I am enjoying this series, too, but I am looking forward to more. lol

    • April 20, 2012

      I am itching to see more photos of your art so I fully encourage you to return asap 🙂

  5. April 20, 2012

    I love, love, love these photos, and I can’t wait to see more! Yay for your new camera!

  6. April 20, 2012

    This is a fabulous idea! And I love the photos (especially the one of the tree!! Want the tree!!). Looking forward to the weekly photos!

  7. veetamia #
    April 20, 2012

    Belle, those are beautiful pictures! I think it’s a great idea for you to pursue other interests (besides IF), especially with such talent. I love pictures and would love to see more non-IF related posts every so often ja,ja It’s wonderful to know there’s a community out there where we are not alone, but sometimes I need a little breather of fresh air and creativity as well!

  8. April 20, 2012

    These are gorgeous Belle! I too loved your photo challenge…even though I didn’t finish (sheepish grin). But it did make me want to start saving for a new macro lens again and I’m well on my way! So thank you for renewing my photography love too.

    Can’t wait to see more of your photos!!!

  9. April 21, 2012

    Hello from ICLW. #99

    Lovely photos, well done. Thanks so much for sharing. I especially like the first one with the blue bottles.

  10. April 21, 2012

    These pictures are gorgeous!! I love your sense of design in framing a shot. That’s one of the things I really look at since I’m not a technical photographer but I like taking neat photos.

  11. April 21, 2012

    Beautiful photos! I am so glad you got back into something you love! I am really looking forward to your weekly posts!!!

  12. April 21, 2012

    These photos are georgous!! I love them 🙂 Great job! I too enjoy photography greatly and sometimes it gets pushed to the back ….. it’s always fun to rediscover that love 🙂

    Dropping by from ICLW – #86

  13. April 23, 2012

    You do have a gift, I love these photo’s and also cannot wait to see more

  14. April 23, 2012

    These are very beautiful photographs!! Congrats on your new camera. I received my new camera today and can’t wait to start playing with it..

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