Two amazing and unrelated things happened in the last 24 hours:
1. I came out on our neglected Adventures in Marriage blog. And then I posted a link on Facebook. It felt good to be honest with the world. It felt even better to have people email saying that they, too, were dealing with infertility and PCOS.
2. A Scrambled Eggs reader sent me an amazing email that I received at just the right time. This reader is not a blogger but she reads regularly and admitted to finding strength and reassurance in my words and thanked me for putting my journey out there. This email was sent Wednesday, a full day before I “came out.” I got her message this morning after a fitful nights sleep worrying about what the world would think of me now that I’m officially infertile for all of Facebook and our other readers to see. Her words assured me that stepping out is the right thing for me to do.
Our Adventures in Marriage will never become an infertility blog, nor will I ever bitch and moan about injections, vagina goo and failed IVFs on Facebook. That said, I do hope that letting the world know about our struggle will bring a smidgen more education to the fertile world. It might encourage my young Facebook followers with irregular cycles to get checked out. It might make the woman with 5 kids a tiny bit more sensitive in the way she asks her childless friend when she will have babies. It might give hope to another woman who is silently struggling. And it will let people who care about me know so, God forbid, the next time my world comes crashing down in miscarriage I may have a few more in real life hugs.
I’m curious, how many of you are open about your infertility journey. At what point did you decide to step out. If you are still in the closet, why?