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Pregnancy: 10 weeks 4 days and an unexpected graduation

12/04/2012

Belle

The anxiety over today’s  scan was less than the rest. I am starting to feel more changes in my body aside from simply looking like a tube and that is giving me a little more confidence. I feel a little discomfort when I lay on my belly for my PIO shot. I am noticing a little firm roundness to my lower belly. My boobs continue to grow (so exciting for a formerly boobless girl!). I’m hungry all the time and need lots of sleep. My hair looks fantastic aside from the bad cut and my skin is more broken out then when I was 14. All promising signs that something is growing in there.

The Professor, though, has been worried sick. Last night his sleep was filled with anxiety dreams about the worst case scenario and he was unusually quiet on the drive to Ohio this morning. As we sat in the exam room waiting on Dr. B he said, “This is torture. I just want to know everything is ok.” It broke my heart to know that the stress of my infertility has been affecting him so profoundly.

Dr. B came in after about 10 minutes and explained that today is his OB day and he had already seen 3 other pregnant women. I said that I hope they all had good news. “Yes, all good news, which makes my day so much better,” he said. “It is so, so hard when there is bad news.” As I laid back and hoisted my feet into the stirrups I realized that I was his fourth OB patient of the day. One out of every four pregnancies ends in loss. The other three were good…. Please, please, please don’t let me be his 25%.

In went the dildo cam and up popped a HUGE baby! Well, huge in comparison to the past few scans. Today we saw:

  • A beautiful beating heart
  • A stomach churning away
  • An aorta pumping
  • A beautiful brain
  • Two perfect arms
  • Eyes and the beginnings of ears
  • A slightly creepy but still amazing skull
  • Two LONG legs. Longer than most, Dr. B said, which is absolutely no surprise given that the Professor is 6 foot 4 inches and has the longest legs I have ever seen and I’m 5 foot 6 and have far more leg length than torso length!
  • An adorable foot with toes
  • A perfect little spine
  • And this is the most amazing, we saw our little Chicken flop around, wave a hand and reach up and rub an eye

You guys, this was the most incredible thing I have ever seen. Little Chicken is measuring 40 mm from crown to rump (I love saying rump) and everything looked just perfect. Dr. B laughed during the ultrasound saying that our little Chicken was putting on way more of a show for us then most babies at 10 weeks. I have four amazing photos I’ll copy and share with you all in a few days.

And then he said something that I was not ready for – he is releasing us to our OB.

Wait, what? An OB? Already? I had expected one more scan with this awesome doctor. I would have brought cookies had I known it was my last scan! I looked at Dr. B and teared up saying, “But I like YOU. I want to stay here with you.” He laughed and said this is a good thing and that he is glad to see us move on but does expect a birth announcement and Christmas cards.

I’m overwhelmed to be here. To be facing the choices of OBs. To have seen my child moving. To have seen the joy and relief in my husbands’ eyes. To have talked about buying baby things on the drive home (not buying things yet, but planning a trip home in the Spring to hit a HUGE church yard sale and hopefully snag some necessities). As each day passes I feel a little more comfortable about this pregnancy. I still have a hard time saying “I’m pregnant” and sometimes can’t choke it out (two stories coming tomorrow on this) but am slowly getting there, one day at a time.

P.S. Any OB or midwife suggestions for the Lexington area? I am planning natural unmedicated child birth and am currently leaning towards a midwife but am open to suggestions and personal experiences.

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  1. December 4, 2012

    Congratulations Belle!!! Embrace this moment and know that I’m hoping for many, many more for you over the next 7 months.

  2. Lya #
    December 4, 2012

    This is the greatest update ever! I’m so happy that chicken is doing great! What a relief!!! Congrats to you and the Professor on your graduation!

  3. December 4, 2012

    so excited for you guys to ‘graduate’ – we just did as well and it feels amazing if sort of panic-inducing in it’s own way. It’s such a double-edge sword starting to feel good about things – you start and then you wonder if you’re somehow jinxing yourself! But wishing all good and wonderful things for you guys, you really deserve it.

  4. December 4, 2012

    That’s fantastic news! I’m so happy for you guys. 😀

  5. Ginny #
    December 4, 2012

    This post makes me HAPPY on a cloudy day here in Lexington-Yay!!! Wish I had OB/Midwife info to share but my days of knowing that kind of stuff are about 10-12 years past……………..good luck and can’t wait for for new pictures of your growing chicken. xxoo

  6. December 4, 2012

    OMG… made my day. While I’m still waiting for that day to come for me, I’m absolutely thrilled for you and could not be more excited that you saw Chicken moving!

  7. Amy #
    December 4, 2012

    Yaaaaaaaaaaay! Go, Chicken, go!!!

    I don’t have any specific recommendations for the Lexington area, but Dr. Stephen Guy and the midwives up here in Dayton (associated with Miami Valley Hospital) were FABULOUS, and helped me get the natural waterbirth I wanted – a combo OB/midwife practice might be ideal, especially one who works with a hospital birth center – they may even be close enough to recommend a similar practice in your area. Worth calling – their receptionist/front desk assistant is super friendly and I’m sure she’d be willing to help you in your search! If only I could remember her name…jeez. Brain fail! I’m SO EXCITED FOR YOU that it’s melting all remnants of my thinking ability.

    Hydrotherapy would be my number one recommendation for pain management – getting in that tub after laboring for nine hours at home was MAGICAL. I’d never have gone another eight and a half hours unmedicated without it! I wasn’t sure if I wanted to deliver in the water or just labor in it, but once I was in it was hard to get me out! Beyond that, HIRE A DOULA – most will slide their fee scale to your income/need level, and it is one “splurge” that is SO worth it when aiming for natural/unmedicated (you can also sometimes find volunteer/doulas-in-training that will attend your birth for free/their own experience)!

    So very very very happy for you, Belle!

  8. Ali #
    December 4, 2012

    This is such a lovely post, I’ve been following your blog for the past few months (so not the long haul) and it’s great to hear such positive news xxx

  9. D #
    December 4, 2012

    Such amazing news!! I can’t wait to see the pictures when you get them up! So happy for you! 🙂

  10. December 4, 2012

    Such great news! I’m so glad you and the Professor were able to have that happiest of moments, watching your little one putting on a show for you! It’s priceless.
    Congrats on your graduation!

  11. December 4, 2012

    Happy Graduation Day Belle! What wonderful news! Congratulations on a beautiful scan and a beautiful chicken growing inside! Hope you can rest a smidge bit easier knowing that everything is going so well!

  12. faith #
    December 4, 2012

    I think Amy there must have been reading our last email….haha..I would second her notion for water tub option at the birth facility (homebirth midwives call that the“natural epidural”)..and of course…a midwife working with OB is the BEST of both worlds…A Doula is the cherry on top of that vegan whipped cream. I was certified through CAPPA..there is also DONA..check their websites for Doula’s in your area..and then they usually will have the scoop on the local OB/midwifery scene. It is so fun to conduct “interviews” with the people that will come together to create your team. Yay Team BCB! Bird,Chicken and the loveliest..Belle! “The Birth Partner” is a good book to give you ideas on creating a birth plan..this is not something you have to put into concrete..it is just a way at looking at what you want your birth experience to include..things you (and husband) may not have ever thought about before. HUGE HUGS!!

    • Amy #
      December 4, 2012

      😉 I’m no hacker, but good to know I’m not the only infertile/RPL girl turned birth geek! That is a great point – starting with a doula now will also give you great support for the remainder of your pregnancy, and she will likely know all the right places to check into for birthing locations/OB/midwife practices!

  13. December 4, 2012

    I’m so, so glad to read this!! I can’t wait for the pics. Belle, I’m so happy for you and the Professor!

  14. December 4, 2012

    This entry makes me giddy. GIDDY, I say!! So so so utterly happy for you and Prof. I wish I had more advice on the midwife/Ob thing, but in the meantime, way to go, Chicken!

  15. December 4, 2012

    Yayyyy!!!! Such great news, what a huge relief. I think it’s officially time to sit back and relax and enjoy this thing. I mean, you probably won’t be able to do that 100%, thanks to the trauma of IF, but still — graduation day is BIG. I think either midwife or OB is fine, with or without doula, natural or with meds, just as long as you give birth in a proper hospital. I’ve heard WAY too many horror stories of home births going wrong, and you don’t want to risk anything after all you’ve been through.

  16. December 4, 2012

    Gosh Belle, I had to read this post twice I love it so much. The first time I couldn’t help smiling and now I’m a little teary. Huge congrats!

  17. December 4, 2012

    I’m so happy that your anxiety is lessening as you move through your pregnancy. And YAY for a great appointment!!

  18. December 4, 2012

    Congratulations, graduate! What fabulous news.

  19. jak #
    December 4, 2012

    FLOPPY CHICKENNNNNNN!!!! this is great, belle! what a wonderful post. so awesome:)))))

    as you know, i’m only zackly 2 wks ahead (ie your chicken is right behind my peanut). and we also literally got back from 12 wk genetic screening at 330 today. it was awesome. the peanut was flopping around like your chicken and waving and kicking. it rolled over when i laughed and the tech had to ask me to cough to get it to turn back and face the right direction to measure the nuchal translucency. everything looked right – chances of 13, 18, 21 trisomy low based on the screen. even its nose looked right. i was shocked. i am still shocked.

    no lexington suggestions. monday we are going to check out a birthing center here on the east coast. i’m terrified of coerced medical interventions that are NOT NECESSARY so am also going to try my best to find a natural route. best of luck! i’m sure you can do it (and sure that the professor will make as good a doula as my husband is going to be).

    i think we can both start to let go of some fear now:)

  20. December 4, 2012

    Oh Belle. This post made me so happy inside. Such a wonderful little chicken you have. So sweet.

  21. karaleen #
    December 4, 2012

    I am soooo thrilled for you and the professor! Yay for the growing chicken….it will be a butterball turkey before you know it!

  22. Violet #
    December 4, 2012

    So happy to hear Little Chicken is growing! and Congrats on your graduation!

  23. Kat #
    December 4, 2012

    Wow, wonderful! So happy for you!!

  24. December 4, 2012

    Hooray for graduating!!!!! And yay for seeing a wiggly little chicken in thre 🙂 🙂

  25. December 4, 2012

    Belle I’m wiping away tears right now. I’m so happy your baby and body are working so well together! Congrats on the graduation sweetie! You have EARNED this. I’ll keep hoping and praying everything continues so beautifully.

  26. December 4, 2012

    I wish I could press the “Like” button on this more than once! So happy for you and how well the scan went!

  27. Infertility Can Suck It #
    December 4, 2012

    I am over the moon thrilled for you all!! What a fantastic day and wonderful update. I can’t wait to see new pics of the little chicken 🙂

  28. December 4, 2012

    Congrats….this is wonderful news!!!

  29. December 5, 2012

    I’m so happy for you Belle!! It is just so amazing when you reach this point. I still remember my scan around this time like it was yesterday. The joy and relief is just out of this world. Our little one also had very long legs at this stage, and he still does!:-) xxx

  30. December 5, 2012

    Hooray for a wonderful scan!! I remember our 12 week scan vividly- I was praying all would be well, and just wept the entire time seeing what looked like an actual BABY on the screen. Amazing. I also remember having the same feelings when at EIGHT weeks I was told insurance needed me to go to a regular doc. I had serious withdrawal after having spent 2+ years in my fertility doc’s capable hands. I ended up switching OBs again around 23 weeks- b/c it IS such a personal, important decision- you definitely want someone you feel a connection with. I wish you lots of luck finding the right doctor, and am so excited for you to be on this journey!

  31. December 5, 2012

    You just brought tears to my eyes! Yay for little chicken you keep growing!! Congrats Belle this is so wonderful!

  32. December 5, 2012

    This made me beam as I read this. I’m so happy for you! I know it’s hard when there’s so much to worry about, but I hope you can enjoy every minute to the best of your ability.

  33. December 5, 2012

    Oh Belle, it is just the best most amazing thing when you seen them move around for the first time! It really didn’t hit me till then. I cried for the first time at that U/s. Congrats on graduating to your OB! I hope you find someone perfect for you. I can’t wait to see all the pics!

    Oh and if you can’t lay on your belly anymore, stand leaning over the back of a chair and turn your toes in toward each other as far as you can go. I have been using that position since the start of my shots and It works great. I actually don’t feel the shot at all.

    • December 5, 2012

      I have tried standing and no matter what I do I can’t relax my rump enough and the husband can’t get a good angle (he is nearly a foot taller than I am). Thankfully I only have 11 (!!!) more shots so I think I can make it. So glad standing up gives you such an easy shot, though! Easy sticks REALLY make a big difference 🙂

  34. December 5, 2012

    How fun that you were relaxed before the scan – you’ve come a long way! I dare say you’re starting to enjoy this pregnancy… and I love that!

    • December 5, 2012

      I feel like I’m making progress. Still worried, but making progress. I even was able to say “I’m pregnant” to the TSA dude at the airport when I opted out of the total body scanner thing (not taking any chances with the Chicken!)

  35. December 5, 2012

    Belle, the happiness in this post makes me cry. Over the past few days, I’ve actually been going back and reading through all of your old posts, and it is so amazing to see how far you’ve come. It makes me so hopeful and so very, very happy for you. I can’t wait to keep reading about your progress and little Chicken.

    Also, I was talking to hubby the other day about my bloggy friends and how I wish I could spend time with them in real life and he asked where all of them live. When I told him where you live, he said it is less than three hours away, and he would definitely be up for a day trip up to Lexington sometime in the near future. We should totally do that one day :o)

    • December 5, 2012

      I would love love LOVE for you guys to plan a day trip to Lexington! Let’s make something happen in the new year!

  36. December 5, 2012

    So happy for you belle. Can’t wait for you and the professor to get your little chicken. And it is nice to know the professor was having some anxiety too (as heartbreaking as it is), nice to know you’re not in crazy over-thinking land alone.

  37. 35life #
    December 6, 2012

    I’m a little late here, but wanted to say how happy i am to read this! I’m so glad everything’s looking good and you are ready to graduate on to an OB! I really love reading your well deserved journey. 🙂

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