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Chicken Lump: It’s Arrived!

03/07/2013

Belle

First, I’m sorry for the password protected post yesterday. I HATE doing protected posts but am not comfortable writing too much about our work situation in the public realm. No one wants to be the next Dooce, you know? That said, I have a handful of friends reading this blog who have been in or are currently in a similar employment nightmare. Their input was super critical yesterday in keeping me from lashing out at my husband, tossing my marriage of the cliff and/or burning professional bridges.

I promise that by Monday the Professor and I will have an inkling as to what the next six months holds for us – an important thing when you are growing a human – and will update the general public with the details.

Until then, let’s talk about the current state of my Chicken Lump. You guys, I think I’ve popped!

This week I had my regular six month checkup at the allergist.  I’ve been going to this clinic regularly for more than three years so the staff know me pretty well. They do not, however, know my infertility history.

So Tuesday afternoon I trounce into the clinic in a new $3.98 gray and black striped maternity dress from Old Navy (deal score!) and proceed to get registered. As the intake person, whose name I should know by this point, is doing my paperwork I notice she keeps looking at me funny. Finally she draws a deep breath and asks, “Are you expecting?”

I was overjoyed! You guys, I’ve been waiting for MONTHS for a stranger to notice my pregnant bump and not just think I was eating too many cookies. When I shyly said yes and told her how far I am (23 weeks and change) she got all excited and had me step back and turn around so she could “get a look at me.” Then she called the other staff and a PATIENT over because “Doesn’t she just look so cute!?”

I was then fussed over, my little bump gushed over and our infertility history listened to and given blessings. As uncomfortable as I am with unwanted attention re: my midsection, having this little bit of love bestowed upon my growing Chicken Lump was awesome.

The recognition gave me peace of mind that I’m not just growing a sizable booty and farting like a man for nothing. For the first time I actually felt pregnant in a good way. I was able to gush with these ladies about our joy, our hopes, and our color choices for the nursery. It felt really good to acknowledge the baby and to get to be the center of attention for a few minutes. Aside from the infertility disclaimer, I felt like a normal pregnant lady, something that I don’t think any of my fertile friends can truly understand. **

When did you get your first public bump recognition? How did it make you feel? Were you open about your infertility struggle?

*If anyone is in the area and in need of an allergist recommendation, please shoot me an email and I’ll pass along my doctor’s contact info!

**I was going to snap a quick bathroom chicken lump photo but  I did not bring my cell to work today. Bummer. Don’t worry, a 24 week shot will be taken this weekend and maybe this time I’ll be smiling 🙂 

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  1. March 7, 2013

    That is awesome!! I can’t wait for a new pic of the Chicken Lump! 🙂

    And I was hoping to hear something about the pwp. I get ya.

  2. March 7, 2013

    Yay! Having your bump acknowledged by a stranger feels like a huge milestone, doesn’t it? I think I was 20 or 21 weeks when I first had someone mention mine and I was elated. I, however, made no mention of my struggle to conceive. In fact, it hasn’t been until very recently as we have tried to conceive again, that I have opened up about it. Please don’t judge me for being a closeted infertile for so long. 🙂 But so glad you were able to flaunt your bump with a little pride. Can’t wait to see the next photo!

  3. March 7, 2013

    I can’t wait to see a photo! This is the best time – when you’re big enough to be cute but not too uncomfortable.

  4. March 7, 2013

    Loved that first recognition (and kudos to the girl who spoke up for her bravery;)!! I shared our infertility history, in certain company. Sometimes it just wasn’t an appropriate thing to be bringing up, ya know? But when the time and audience were right, I did share… And that always made the bump praising go up a few notches:) I really hope you are able to get the answers you guys need on the professional front, so you can really settle in, make plans, and enjoy this time, “fat ass” and farts or not!

  5. March 7, 2013

    Can’t wait for the pic!! My first real recognition was around 22 weeks. I announced on Facebook with a picture right before our big family/friend camping trip and was gushed over on and off for a week. I was very open about our struggle and it felt SO good. It lets you feel normal and really appreciative of the pregnancy. I miss it already.

  6. jak #
    March 7, 2013

    HECK YES!!!!!! Happy Bump Recognition Day!!!!! great story:) you should feel like a regular pregnant woman, because you are. i know that we carry psychological burdens from IF and have trouble embracing our pregnancies because we’re afraid they are going to be snatched from us at any time, BUT! you’ve made it really far and without complication. your health-conscious nature no doubt has been helpful in giving you such a healthy (albeit gassy, haha) pregnancy:))) you should not lose sight that your pregnancy is MORE normal than many women who never struggled with IF.

  7. March 7, 2013

    I was also 6 months preggers before anyone noticed, I still remember it, it made my day =)

  8. March 7, 2013

    Yay for bump recognition!!! Can’t wait to see it. It feels good doesn’t it to be the cute pregnant lady. Embrace it because soon enough you will feel like the gigantic pregnant lady :).
    My bump was first outed by my whole family and 10 weeks (remember I was huge in no time) at Easter. And then first commented on by a stranger at 12. I had a gigantic happy dopey grin, I am sure this stranger had never seen a happier pregnant lady. I am super pathetic though and didn’t share our infertility status with anyone. And still haven’t save a few close friends.

  9. March 7, 2013

    I tell just about everyone who asks if twins run in our family about the fertility issues – but I’m a very open person. Congrats on the bump notice 🙂

  10. March 7, 2013

    Can’t wait for the pic!!!

  11. veetamia #
    March 7, 2013

    Congrats! I got offered a bus seat twice during this week by a complete stranger – that does not happen in Germany where people covet their seats like their gold lol

  12. Shelley #
    March 7, 2013

    Okay the title of this post admittedly scared the bejeebus out of me for a second. But I’m so glad you finally got that recognition you were craving! People started noticing for me around 12 weeks so… yeah. I’m no skinny minny like you though!

  13. March 7, 2013

    This post made me smile. 🙂 Isn’t it wonderful to get that recognition and to feel like a real pregnant woman, not just a pretender?

    People started noticing something pretty early on with me – maybe around week 12 or 13. At that time I got a lovely “are are you putting on weight?” comment from a coworker. Ouch. Did not exactly make me feel joyous. Compare that to today (at 25w2d) when a different coworker asked me “are you expecting?” She was very sweet, but how could she have not noticed before? I’m huge! lol

  14. karaleen #
    March 7, 2013

    Oh…I loved reading how your bump got some love!!!! I cannot remember any of the stranger notices until I was very far along. My first bump took awhile to pop…I am taller, long bodied and had some pretty good tummy muscles back in the days before 2 babies in my 40’s. So I don’t think strangers felt comfortable until I was near the end….but with my 2nd baby…I popped out FAST and carried her soooo differently…right out front. Just about everyone made comments….but sadly…they were those rude kind of comments like “oh my…should you be out?” “Wow…are you overdue already”…etc etc. I just rolled my eyes and ignored those.
    And yay for you for scoring a maternity dress under $4. I am happily wearing an old navy pair of trouser jeans that I just scored for under $6 last week. I LOVE a good deal!!!!!
    kd

  15. Shinara #
    March 7, 2013

    In my business, I have a lot of clients and I planned on not saying anything (mainly because I wasn’t sure how successful my baby growing capabilities were) until others said something first. I have now come to the conclusion that American women are afraid to death of saying anything with regards to a “bump”. They look at you with this ‘deer in headlights’ look and that’s it. Guys are hilarious. They stare at you, smile, and if they are older they’ll approach the subject gingerly. If they are younger and have a family, they’ll bring up the subject in a roundabout way. So cute, mainly because they want to talk about their babies. Then there are the folks from other countries. They are the BEST! They just look you in the face with a huge smile and blurt out, “You must be pregnant!” Congratulations…..etc. It’s like night and day. My best and first reaction was from a lovely woman from Jamaica. She said she just knew I was pregnant in November and I wasn’t even showing! We danced around the Reception area and some of the other office folk came out and started to dance, too. That was hilarious!

    By the way, Password protection is there for a reason. Privacy. Privacy is important.

  16. March 7, 2013

    I don’t remember when I first got recognition… I do remember being huge and everyone coming up to me and saying “you look like you’re going to pop!” and I would say “I am only 30 weeks!” etc. That kind of attention got repetitive, ha!

  17. Arbrefleur #
    March 7, 2013

    Wow. Congratulations on a very healthy pregnancy and a new Popped belly!!! I do think it was brave of your check-in person to say something. I can totally understand her not wanting it to go the other way so I can understand the silent bump-lookers out there. When I was super bloated from IVF meds and if someone asked, I would probably have cried… So you must honestly be The Cutest Preggo, because she wanted to say something since obviously there can literally be no other explanation for a skinny minnie like you to be sporting the belly – woohoo! SO excited to see pics!

    I also just wanted to share my story about revealing the IVF/IF journey/origin of our yet-to-pop little one. When we tell people we’re expecting, I am insistent on revealing the IVF part, but I feel that I blurt it out so awkwardly and make people want to run away. This is my first time (in 4 years) being open about IF so I’m super awkward about it but still determined. I look forward to reading your blog everyday and others from this great community of bloggers and commenters to get tips on how best to handle this because I really want to be “out” and possibly help others, but I’m doing an embarrassingly piss poor job so far! 🙂

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