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Our future! Source.

*First, guess who forgot about taking a belly photo due to her extremely foul mood this weekend? THIS LADY! Maybe I’ll have time tonight.

Friday was a long, miserable day of waiting. Every time the Professor popped into my IM list I asked, “Any word yet?” and he would reply “No. But I like to think no news is good news.”

By 7 that night he still had not gotten a call regarding the job. He went off to dinner with some math folks and I went to bed, a sad, soggy, extremely stressed out woman. Saturday morning he left town early for an overnight trip to talk some more math with some fancier math people. I slugged around the house all morning and eventually took myself out for lunch with a girlfriend. The afternoon was spent getting groceries and visiting a few consignment shops where I treated myself to a couple new maternity items hoping that a little retail therapy would cheer me up.

It didn’t.

I made a boring dinner for one (baked chicken with mustard, brussels sprouts, squash and “riced” cauliflower) and ate it while watching The Hours, which turns out to be a very poor choice when you are pregnant and feeling incredibly hopeless and trapped. After the movie I proceeded to lay in bed having my first panic attack since starting Prozac.

At 4:30 in the morning I was done trying to sleep and crawled out of bed to make breakfast. At 5:30 I heard my phone chime with an email. It was a forward from the Professor with the subject line “FWD: position at University in NYC”

Fuck. Here we go.

I hit open.


We have been moving at glacial speed and now I’m away on vacation…. I want you to know that we will extend an offer to you soon…. If you have any questions contact Dr. Blahbity Blah”

I had to read this three times until things sank in. Not exactly an offer, but the promise of an offer. An offer coming soon. An offer for a job that actually moves his career forward vs. treading water or even back peddling by staying here another year. An offer that is not in the desert with scary things that bite and sting you (hello scorpions) and a trailer belonging to his parents.

That night the Professor came home hung over (evidently there was lots of drunken math Saturday night) and on cloud nine. He even cleaned up the sun room and mopped and vacuumed the floors with me only having to ask once ~ NEW RECORD~

While this position is not our top choice, it does move his career forward. It takes his research in a bio-medical direction, it plugs him into the private Jesuit university system and it should bring him a slew of connections. It is only a two to four-year position, meaning I will not be trapped in NYC long-term. While I have no doubt that it will be a really fun place to be for a few years, it is not where my heart lies. I have felt called to the Pacific Northwest for years now. Hopefully this job will get us there next stop.

I wish I had more details – like how the hell we are going to live in such an expensive city on such a tiny professor income and where the hell will I work – but I don’t. We’ll know more when the official offer comes and we see what kind of salary we are looking at. Then I can start selling the large majority of our stuff, vehicles included, on e-Bay and Craigslist. Anyone interested in being notified of when the fire sale starts? We have a lot of useful stuff and a lot of total crap. There are tools, kitchen items, Christmas trees, clothing, craft stuff, furniture (including some now discontinued Ikea pieces), an embarrassing number of wire storage racks and more. All proceeds benefit getting the Chicken moved into his or her new closet-sized bedroom.

So that is the great update that was promised last week after I bellyached about living in a trailer (which now would be spacious compared to the shoe box we’ll rent in NYC!) and having to work after birthing the Chicken (still gonna have to happen, but hopefully I can hold off for the first six months). My password post was a big, rude rant that I now feel like an ass hat for writing, but sometimes a gal’s gotta get it off her chest, you know? Stay tuned for more updates as we start to iron out details and set a firm-ish move date for after the Chicken is born. 

As an aside, the Professor still has not received a rejection from the tenure track job in the Pacific Northwest. Once he has a dollar offer in hand from the NYC job he will follow-up there. I am CLINGING to the hope that he is their top choice and that due to the sequester (boo Washington) they are taking their sweet time. So maybe my dream of being a crunchy mama out west can still come true… Otherwise, it’s bright lights and big city for this Southern Belle.



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  1. March 11, 2013

    The Pacific Northwest is fun and laid-back, and I enjoy being a mama here, but NYC will be exciting too, if it comes to that! So happy to hear that, either way, the Professor will have a good job to go to and you ALL can move forward. You deserve it!

  2. 35life #
    March 11, 2013

    OH! Ok, a small, premature congrats until everything is final. But, I do love NYC and am very excited for you. And I like your attitude about it being temporary. As much as I love that city, I think temporary is a good, less-threatening way to approach it. A stepping stone to where you really want to go. Fingers remain crossed!

  3. March 11, 2013

    Yay! Congrats!

  4. March 11, 2013

    Yay! No more super scary limbo! I realize that this isn’t ideal and there are still quite a few unknowns, but I’m so glad that you have a little more to cling onto now. I will keep sending you positive vibes, and keep praying that you will get some concrete answers soon!
    Also, my family and I are going on vacation in NYC in November–now I’m getting my hopes up that this vacation will include a visit with a precious little chicken 🙂

  5. March 11, 2013

    Omg this is GREAT NEWS! I know NYC isn’t your top choice, but seriously girl, you cannot complain about having to move to one of the world’s greatest cities for a few years — and I actually think it’s a wonderful place in which to raise a baby because you can walk everywhere, there’s lots of stimulation, plenty of resources for new moms, etc. The Pacific Northwest is amazing, granted, but you have to drive everywhere and that kinda blows. ANYWAY — you will find a way to be happy in a shoebox. Ask Robyn at Polycystic Inside for advice!

  6. Shelley #
    March 11, 2013

    YAY – so glad! Student evals be damned, this is awesome news! I’d totally kill to spend a few years in NYC, even those first few baby years. NYC is an amazing city, maybe not for the long term but definitely for a few years. Sometimes I fantasize about selling our house, finding an overpriced rental in the city and raising our kids there.

  7. Tasha #
    March 11, 2013

    Yay!!!! And if you even think about selling those Markor bookcases to anyone but me, I will hunt you down and steal your cats!

    • March 11, 2013

      Girl, you know you got dibs on the bookcases 🙂

  8. March 11, 2013

    I’m sososososo happy he has a tentative offer, but nonononono!!! lol I really wanted it to be here. But you will love NYC, I’m sure. As much of a California girl as I am, I really freaking LOVE that city and have contemplated moving there several times. If it does work out that you guys move there, ENJOY the experience while you’re there. And then get your booty out to the west coast! 🙂 Hugs and give the Prof a high-five from me. 🙂

  9. March 11, 2013

    I’m so happy to hear an offer should be coming in from NYC. Giant sigh of relief!!

    But man I hope you end up with an offer from out here!! I seriously need a crunchy mama girlfriend. Considering where I live, it’s shocking how hard it is to find like minded mamas.

    I’m thinking of you guys with fingers crossed!!

  10. March 11, 2013

    So happy to hear there is an offer in your future! Giant sigh of relief!

    But damnit I want you guys out here!! I need another crunchy mama girlfriend because they are surprisingly hard to find out in there parts.

    Ill be thinking about you guys with fingers crossed!! Xoxo

  11. Arbrefleur #
    March 11, 2013

    Congrats! If it ends up being NYC, I really think you will love it there! But somewhat temporary is a good thing, too 🙂

  12. Infertility Can Suck It #
    March 11, 2013

    What great news!! Congrats to you both and hopefully other fabulous news is right around the corner as well!!

  13. March 11, 2013

    I’m so glad Professor finally got an offer!! I hope he gets many more that will give you several location options!!

  14. March 11, 2013

    HUGE congrats Belle! This is great news. A job offer at a good school is a great accomplishment and I know it will mean good things for your future.

    And if you end up in NY, we can do lunch sometime when I’m home visiting my parents.

    So happy for you!

  15. mylifeisaboutthejourney #
    March 11, 2013

    Oh wow! How exciting! Congrats! I love NYC! My sister lives in Brooklyn and she and her fiance commute into the city for work. Brooklyn has more of a smaller town feel than Manhattan, but is still so close to everything via the subway. Might be an option possibly. You could also still keep your car if you moved there. 🙂

  16. March 11, 2013

    Congrats on the offer!!! Could you guys live in a suburb and commute to have more space? Though I guess traffic in NYC is an utter nightmare.

  17. March 11, 2013

    Congratulations on the impending offer!!! NYC is a beast, but like Theresa said, you could always live in the outskirts of the city and commute. 🙂

  18. Kathy #
    March 11, 2013

    If anyone can pull this off in style it is you, lady ! Glad to hear the pressure is off a bit.

  19. March 11, 2013

    As I am currently on the job market and hearing a big fat nothing, I read this blog posting with the same feeling I used to have when reading the “I’m pregnant” postings back when I still thought I stood a chance at getting knocked up — really, really happy for you, but wishing I’d get my own poorly worded, somewhat confusing, and not-quite-the-real-deal email.

    NYC? 2-4 years! That’s amazing. Think of all the Broadway you can see. Oh, wait, maybe not so much Broadway with a Chicken, eh?

    Congrats to your Professor. I’m stoked for him.

  20. March 11, 2013

    Congrats! Getting a tenure track position is nearly impossible. Such great news! I hope the other university bites when they hear the news!!

  21. March 12, 2013

    YAY YAY YAY an incoming job offer!!! Don’t feel bad about your rant- it’s what you were feeling at the time.

  22. March 15, 2013

    Zoweeeee!!! I step away from the blogosphere for a full week, and look what happens!! So happy for you and the Prof 🙂

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