Skip to content

A good doctor



I saw my OB yesterday, who we will call Dr. Shannon from now on, for my regular 28 week checkup and to review Dr. TeleMed’s report. I am so thankful for having found Dr. Shannon. She was so kind, said all the right things and rolled her eyes when we said we teleconferenced with Dr. TeleMed.

First, though, thank you for all the kind comments. You all made me cry, laugh and just feel so much better. One of the biggest problems with having your closest friends and family so far away is that when you REALLY need a hug, you often can’t find one. Your comments were the hug I really needed.

So back to yesterday. Dr. Shannon was super pleased that Dr. TeleMed’s first statement was that we will plan for natural birth. He would not have said this if he did not think it was a real possibility, she explained. As for all the other “this could happen, that could happen, doom doom doom,” Dr. TeleMed was basically covering his ass. She also pointed out that Dr. TeleMed is a high risk doctor – it is his JOB to look for all the possible horrible things that could happen no matter how minimal the risk.

I asked if she felt a 6 week ultrasound was too little following to make sure Chicken was ok and she said, no, that actually she was a little worried to do an ultrasound at 32 weeks due to it becoming harder and harder to get accurate measurements as baby gets larger. Her biggest concern is not that we’ll have a massive bleed and lose baby, and not that baby might not get enough nutrients and thrive, but that Dr. TeleMed is going to get an inaccurate reading and think the baby is “too big to fit” out of my little lady parts. She reiterated what I already know about “big babies,” saying that a baby who is truly too large to fit is rare and that without the risk of gestational diabetes and other complications, there just was not evidence backing the big baby claims.

She did agree to start doing two week checkups now so we can keep tabs on baby’s heart and my belly growth. I’m allowed to call or email if I have ANY concerns or worries at all, and that I should open up that Hypno Babies box and dig in, because my chance of natural birth, and bringing home a happy healthy baby are still very high – we are just watching for any last minute drama.

I expressed my worries about vasa previa and a massive bleed that kills baby and she said that there is ALWAYS a risk of hemorrhage and baby loss in a situation like this, but it is a very, very small risk. She said my risk of a maternal hemorrhage from retained placenta is much higher, but since I’ll be in a hospital setting and we are already aware of my placenta issues we’ll be ready to address it. I also got the impression the risks associated with c-section (and there are a lot of risks with such a major surgery) actually outweigh the chance of hemorrhage from vascular/placenta issues.

I walked away from the appointment feeling better about our situation. Is there still risk? Yeah. Does it still suck and scare the pants off me? Absolutely. However, I trust that Dr. Shannon has our best interest at heart, and that she is also willing to listen to Dr. TeleMed should he voice serious concern.

Despite all this, I still have not unboxed and put baby shower gifts away. I still have not washed onsies. I was going to push myself to do this, but decided to instead honor my gut. I’ll know when it is time. Until then, tonight I’m going to clear some more space in the guest room closet and store it all there, boxes and all. Heck, most of it we might not even want to unpack before we move to NYC anyways. It might be easier to just function in a very bare-bones fashion for the first few weeks. Right? At least that is what I’m telling myself. My baby will make it here one way or another and hopefully mommy will still have all her whits when he/she makes the great debut!


And now a quick NYC update: we have found a rocking real estate agent (can’t remember if I told you this) who actually said, “We are going to make this transition as smooth and easy on you and your family as possible.” I know she probably says this to everyone, and that a statement alone can’t ensure an easy go, but DAMN if it did not make me cry happy tears of relief. The Professor also contacted a mortgage person (lender? broker? this is all so foreign to me that I don’t even know the jargon!) who was recommended by a close and financially savvy family friend. This guy was also awesome and was confident we’ll have no trouble qualifying for enough mortgage to get us a modest place in a safe area. Will it be super luxurious? Dude, no way in hell. But I am terribly handy with paint and can spruce even the ugliest bathroom up on a dime. Next step: taxes and the actual mortgage application!



Post a comment
  1. April 10, 2013

    Oh that sounds soooo much better. What a difference a good confident doctor can make. So glad you found her.

  2. jak #
    April 10, 2013

    YESSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!! that’s all awesome news:) glad it was just the “IT guy factor” with dr. telemed, and that dr. shannon new this and kept her perspective. i just love “experts”. they are always so good at freaking people out, haha.


  3. April 10, 2013

    I love your OB.

    Sooooo glad to hear better news today!

  4. April 10, 2013

    I would do a cartwheel if I could. Yay for Dr. Shannon!!!! I particularly love that she rolled her eyes about Dr. TeleMed. Way too amazing!

    Glad you are working with someone who is able to be so realistic and provide you with the plan of action you need. Equally glad that the real estate hunt is off to a good start. Fingers crossed for a smooth transition.

  5. WTW #
    April 10, 2013

    That is fantastic news! Sounds like you have an awesome OB. So happy she gave you some peace of mind. Looking forward to hearing about your NYC house-hunt!

  6. Arbrefleur #
    April 10, 2013

    Hooray for good news!!!! What a great OB you have…I want her! And the NYC real estate movement is so great. Keep us posted (I know you will 😉 – exciting stuff abounds!!

  7. MCS #
    April 10, 2013

    You actually have a really good idea in leaving some things boxed up at the beginning. I did not have my shower until 6 weeks after my LO was born and we functioned the first few weeks with the same outfits over and over and many, many burp clothes and Aden+Anais blankets. The crib wasn’t even delivered until after he was born and he slept in a bassinet in our room for the first 8 weeks or so. They really don’t play with toys at the beginning and just want to sleep and eat. Get those items ready and keep the rest boxed up for your move.
    Good luck!

  8. Kathy #
    April 10, 2013

    Sounds like you are surrounded by excellent people, both Dr.s and Real estate. Glad, glad, glad to hear ! Yay for two week appointments, the countdown is ON !

  9. April 10, 2013

    If it makes you feel any better I didn’t start washing clothes until about 30 weeks bc of fear of loss and other than Braxton hicks like crazy we haven’t had any major issues that I know of. It’s so hard to feel safe after facing infertility and loss. So glad things are looking up.

  10. April 10, 2013

    Yay for good OBs!

  11. April 10, 2013

    I’m glad things went much better with Dr. Shannon and that she put you at ease!

  12. April 10, 2013

    If it’s helpful (for perspective), our baby had no bed when I went into labor so I ordered one to be shipped after my water broke, and the baby wore her coming home outfit and the pack of onesies a friend dropped off just after she was born for 2 weeks until the rest of her clothes got washed/found. Nesting happens when you’re ready or when you get to it. Happy hypno babies! It was such a great experience for me! I hope you find it soothing and helpful.

  13. April 11, 2013

    All of this sounds positive and great!! Glad that Dr. Shannon was able to make you feel better.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: