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06/11/2013

Belle

I’m tired of writing about breech babies, bilobed placentas, family centered c-sections, blah blah blah. I’ll share an update after I meet with Dr. Shannon and find a new doctor to take on my case. Until then, I’m going to try and act like any normalish pregnant lady and get things ready.

So this weekend I did…. laundry! I washed all the hand-me-downs Chicken received from our very kind and generous friends and sorted them by size. This kid will seriously have enough clothing to last till he/she is 6 months I think. This is a HUGE blessing when you consider our financial situation with the impending NYC move. I also OPENED some new things and washed them too – a few receiving blanks, wash cloths and towels, a cover for the changing pad, a few water proof pads and a swaddle sack thingy.

I packed my hospital bag for a natural birth to bring along to the ECV should labor start after the procedure (as can occasionally occur). Now that plans are changing, though, I need to repack for a longer stay and a c-section recovery. I did some Googling and found some pretty generic lists, but wanted to first consult with my readers who have also gone through c-sections. What did you bring that was a huge benefit and what did you pack that was just wasted space? Any comfort items you recommend?

AND THEN, in case this was not enough “Look at me world, I’m going to act normal,” this morning I used one of our return credits to order a black and white play mat and some of the coolest magnetic cabinet locks for our new kitchen because oh my gosh, I do NOT want my child playing “bang the pots and pans” with my expensive cookware. ย I may be sad from the impending c-section but I’m still Belle the Kitchen Nazi! ๐Ÿ™‚

So there you go. A slightly more positive, proactive post. Baby has clean clothes, I have a half-packed bang and my pretty Le Creusetย will be protected.

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  1. APE #
    June 11, 2013

    Honestly, the only thing I can remember that was invaluable to me were snacks! My SIL brought some kettle corn, and peanut butter filled pretzels from Trader Joe’s to me and it was soooo nice during the middle of the night. I also like having extra undies and a couple pair of jammies – no pants though and easily accessible to the breast! The only thing we had for baby was a onesie that he lived in while in the hospital and an outfit and blanket for pictures. And the carseat. Of course you’ll need your wear-home outfit and maybe some slippers while your moving around the hospital. I was in for 5 days, so take some shower stuff and your toothbrush, chapstick, etc. I didn’t even mess with hair or makeup but some women can’t go without. Books and wordsearches are a waste of space. You won’t have time to do anything like that. Baby will need you constantly and your flow of visitors will take up the rest of your time. Ahhh…this is the fun part. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • June 12, 2013

      Oh man, Trader Joe’s has the BEST snacks ever. I love the kettle corn and the pop corn with a touch of olive oil and sea salt. nom nom nom.

  2. June 11, 2013

    Do you have a robe that isn’t too bulky, or a longer, wrap cardigan? Even if you bring your own comfy clothes to wear instead of one of the hospital gowns, it’s so nice to have something snuggly to throw on with longer coverage.

    • June 12, 2013

      Actually picked up a dark colored light weight robe at Target this weekend! It’s soft and looks like it will help me maintain some modesty ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Amy #
    June 11, 2013

    I missed commenting on your last post – I am so sorry the version was a no-go. I hope you do get the family centered c-section, unless of course he still decides to flip on his own. I can absolutely understand not bothering to hope for that anymore, though, and it does sound like you are well on your way to as positive a c-section experience as possible, which is no small thing. You are an amazing advocate for yourself and your baby, and that is going to carry you through birth, however it ends up going, right into motherhood, which I am so excited to see you approaching!!

  4. June 11, 2013

    I didn’t have a c section, but what I do remember (which apparently is also true of a c section) is the postpartum bleeding is disgusting. I literally was wearing a pad on TOP of a folded blue mattress pee protector thing, all inside my super sexy hospital skivvies. I later heard a few women say screw it all and BUY depends. Just do it. Next time I am going all out – it cannot be any more uncomfortable and it will be a whole lot less bulky.

    • June 12, 2013

      This made me cringe and then I Googled it and so many women recommend Depends. I would rather be comfortable and not always worried about a bloody mess so I’m gonna do it… and hope I can keep it from the husband ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. karaleen #
    June 11, 2013

    I totally overpacked for my first C-section. O.M.G. And we literally lived 2 blocks from the hospital. It was comical. For my 2nd….I took next to nothing. Here is my list….

    For me:
    Face wash, shampoo, blow dryer and stuff and a little bit of make up, tooth brush etc…oh..and a small mirror so you can do this in your bed if you like.
    Extra panties (but seriously…the mesh ones they give you at the hospital work the best and you don’t ruin your own)
    Light Robe…even in November…I was hot at the hospital…a thick one is not necessary…and more often than not..I just wore a 2nd hospital gown backwards. I brought a nightgown…but it was just easier to wear the hospital stuff and the snap down shoulders made nursing and quick skin-to-skin time so much easier (plus…I didn’t really want all the laundry when I got home).
    Slippers…a must have. get up and walk around as soon as you can and as much as you can. You will heal faster and it will reduce the chance of gas getting up in your shoulders. I didn’t have the gas with the first c-section but I did with the 2nd and the only way to alleviate it is to get up and move around.
    I came to the hospital in the same outfit I intended to wear home. yoga pants and a maternity t-shirt. Some women bring dresses thinking the pressure on the c-section incision will bother them…but a comfortable (not too tight) pair of yoga pants actually feels good…kind of like it is holding your tummy for you.
    Hint: Steal as many of the pads from the hospital that you can. it is virtually impossible to find the super duper long ones on the market shelves and those are the BEST for the first week after baby. C-section mamas can still bleed a lot even though you did not have a vaginal birth…so be prepared. I would tuck them into my suitcase and just tell the nurse I needed more. The more you can take home with you the better….you really do kind of want the sumo wrestler length ones….they offer the best protection since you will be lying down a lot.

    For baby:
    Boppy or breast feeding pillow. This is a MUST. It really helps get baby in the right position for nursing and also kind of doubles as an extra pillow for you.
    For me…I brought some pacifiers because I don’t like the ones they use at the hospital. first baby didn’t like any of them…2nd baby loved them. This is just a personal choice.
    For 2nd baby I also brought some nipple shields….I learned the hard way with the first one that a newborn has the sucking strength of a top of the line Dyson …ouch…bloody, blistery ouch. The lactation consultant gave me nipple shields for the first baby 3 days in and that was way too late. For baby two…we did natural latch for the most part (both she and I were better at this than my first try)…but the nipple shields did really help when I was super sore and she needed to be reminded to really open her mouth and get a good latch. I highly recommend them. I only used them for about the first week off and on and then never again. She was a natural nurser…if only my crazy let down didn’t drown the poor thing. ๐Ÿ™‚
    Going home outfit, a couple burp clothes, a blanket and the car seat.
    That’s it. I took soooo much stuff the first time….we used NONE of it. They give you diapers (and I was cloth diapering once I got home so I this was fine with me…oh…this could be a super great money saver for you if you have ever considered it….I was so nervous…but I LOVED cloth diapering my babies). they also give you the little t-shirts and blankets. That is really all you need while you are there.

    So glad you are having fun prepping. Can’t wait to see your beautiful chicken in a couple weeks.
    Karaleen

  6. June 11, 2013

    I packed a ton of stuff and hardly used it. What I did use: nursing bras/tops, snacks, chap stick, comfy underwear and clothes, toiletries, blankets and first outfits for the babies, a pillow. I was told to bring pads for the bleeding but used the hospitals (have some for home though).

    • June 12, 2013

      Got some nursing bras the other weekend. I gotta say, I wish I’d done this MONTHS ago. I’m still squishing my boobies into my pre-pregnancy bras and holy cow these feel better!

  7. June 11, 2013

    I swear by having my own gowns for my hospital stay. They help you feel normal and sort of pretty. I switched into mine right after nursing the first time.

    Take some things for your GI system. I will be hiding my Metamucil in my bag. You will have a hard time pooping after the c section. Don’t tell the hospital you gave it – that was the suggestion from my OB. Said to just take it quietly.

    I didn’t need much to feel comfy. Just make sure you take slippers. Hospital socks suck!

    • June 11, 2013

      PS… I’m glad tour feeling better about all of this. I really think just KNOWING what you’ll be having (natural or section) helps the mind get to a happier place!!!

      • June 12, 2013

        Oh lord, I didn’t think about the first poo post cesarean! Pooing is a delicate task to begin with for me. Pooing after abdominal surgery will be, um, bad. I’ll be sure to pack some poo cocktail!

  8. ckatz201 #
    June 11, 2013

    Button down nightie was very useful. Um, I didn’t take a single shower in the hospital after my c section and barely brushed my teeth. So all my toiletries were a waste of space…but from what I read, I am in the minority in terms of choosing to be smelly over the pain of trying to wash myself (though I did wash my incision….). BIG GRANNY undies that go up to your belly button. Also important- bring your breast pump. I know everyone here was talking about how they were leaking milk in the recovery room, but mine took a solid 4 days to come in and I used the pump to try to get it going better, esp cause my (clinically) little ones were not latching properly. Though, since you’ve been leaking all during your pregnancy, you probably won’t have a problem.

    • June 12, 2013

      I will check and see if my hospital has breast pumps available and if not, I’ll go ahead and buy and bring my own. Thanks for the tips!

  9. SM #
    June 11, 2013

    I can’t help you with the bag packing but I wanted to say I’m sorry the version didn’t work. I hope you get the c-section you want! I know without a doubt that no matter how he/she comes into the world, you’re going to be an awesome mom to one lucky Chicken!

  10. Elizabeth #
    June 11, 2013

    I didn’t have a section, but maybe this might be a good idea for you anyway.

    The one “odd” thing I was SO HAPPY I brought was a package of brand spankin’ new socks. I didn’t want to wear the hospital socks, I didn’t have time to get a pedicure, and I didn’t want to wear my “regular” socks from home…. you know how once they’ve been worn, they always look dirty even if they’re clean??

    Anyway, I was so happy to have them. I never had to worry about the condition of my feet or my socks. Yay!

  11. June 11, 2013

    What everyone else has said so far sounds great. From all that I have read, hospital stays in the US and Finland are quite different. The one thing that I couldn’t recommend enough is Lansinoh (lanolin) nipple cream. You don’t need to wash it off before baby feeds and it works wonders on the nipples! Plus!! It is great for baby butts too. ๐Ÿ™‚ Any time my little guy looked like he was getting a bit red on the bum, I put this ointment on and at the next diaper change all looked better.

    • June 11, 2013

      p.s. Make sure to always check the next size up clothes every so often, because even if they say 3 months, they could run small. It is amazing how much clothing can different in size with each brand and sometimes even within the same brand. An example, my guy is 9 months and today he was wearing a 3 month size body…but a previous body of that same brand was way too little at the 6mo size and age.

  12. SRB #
    June 11, 2013

    I didn’t have a c-section, but I have two “must haves” for a hospital bag: Your own pillow (yes, the space it takes is WORTH IT) and chapstick. Hospitals can be so dry!

    Like Courtney said, I’m glad to see you finding some peace in how things are going. You are taking ownership over this curveball like a boss! ๐Ÿ™‚

  13. June 11, 2013

    Just catching up on things in Belle-land after being away for a bit — SO HAPPY to hear you’ve done laundry and opened things! I feel like that was the last challenge to really crack, like now you’re officially ready for this to happen. And you’re dealing with all this other crap like a pro…

    Um, if you ever want to auction off your Le Creuset, I will definitely take you up on that!

    • June 12, 2013

      Haha, the Le Creuset is one of the few heavy things that is actually making the move with us ๐Ÿ™‚ I eBayed a TON of unused crap from our kitchen to save for those pieces. Totally worth it and I highly encourage others to do the same!

  14. el #
    June 12, 2013

    Hey Belle, I am so sorry for you your baby is still in breech… But I can tell you the moment the little one is there, it doesn’t matter anymore. After 5 years of infertility treatments, an icsi miracle and a difficult pregnancy with a lot of bleeding I dreamed of natural childbirth. The one thing I wanted to do so natural as possible… Less than 3 weeks ago I gave birth to my little baby boy and after 12 hours of labor I gave in to epidural when the midwife said I was still nowhere, a couple of hours later the doctor decided to do an emergency c-section both for the baby as for me. It was not what I dreamed about but still it was the best moment of my life. I couldn’t care less about the c-section the moment my little one was there. But I have to admit I was kinda lucky with my hospital, they put the baby immediately with me even during the rest of the surgery and I could take my little one and my husband with me to the recovery room. The next best thing. So enjoy the last few weeks of your pregnancy, don’t worry too much but maybe look in to the next best thing :-). Oh and don’t pack too much, I was six days at the hospital and didn’t use half of it. A boppy pillow, nursing bra’s, comfy clothing and some first items for the baby and the usual toiletries… Btw, I couldn’t get up and take a shower the first two days so the nurses washed me but my hair was awful so maybe something for your hair.. I wish you all the luck and enjoy every moment of it even if it doesn’t turn out the way you always wanted.

    • June 12, 2013

      Something to cover my hair is a GREAT idea that I did not think about! I have thin hair and after 24 hours it starts to look pretty gnarly!

  15. jak #
    June 12, 2013

    i’m glad you have a clear plan and are embracing moving forward!! sometimes just knowing what direction things are going in is even more important for sanity than getting your plan a.

    i’ve not had a c, but helped my mum through a c for my breech much younger sis. the most helpful things to her seemed to be things conducive to helping with headaches – having a soft headband to keep hair out of your face, toiletries that have pleasant but not overwhelming smells, (this is crazy, but…) limes or lemons and a knife snuck into your bag to plunk in your water styrofoam water cup, advil (which they can give you there). instead of taking the heavy narcotic pain meds, she opted to use big doses of advil (which is safe after delivery) to help with swelling and pain post-surgery. do whatever works for you though. my mom is a bit, errrr, shall we say, crunchy?

    best wishes to you and the chick! i’m glad you have a solid direction you can embrace and move forward with. i hope you dont get handed any more drama. and that the upcoming weeks are just one foot in front of the other until chicken arrives with a pretty perfect unmoulded head, hehehe:)

  16. June 12, 2013

    My c section wasn’t planned so I thought I’d be in and out. Only took one set of baby clothes (because we wouldn’t be in long) and Elvis spat up mucus that first night. Staff weren’t happy I didn’t have spare! Also remember a baby blanket or two!

  17. June 12, 2013

    What everyone has said was right. I took waaay more than I ended up needing. Check what the hospital provides for the baby, ours had everything. Just needed something to take them home in. As for the c-section, ask for a “surgical support garment”, basically a girdle, to hold your tummy in. It allows you to move around without feeling like your insides are going to fall out. I basically lived in mine for a month after my section and was doing great caring for our twins in a two story apartment 3 days after. I cannot stress how much this helped me feel like a more normal person after the surgery.

  18. June 12, 2013

    I totally second the trader Joe’s snacks!!! We live in Canada but my parents sent the to us from Calif!! I ended up having an emergency section after labouring untill 9 cm…annoying but i was not prepared at all for what i needed after! Good for you for being proactive!! I wish i had brought my own gel ice pack to use on my incision that hurt like crazy. Also totally totally stay on top of the stool softerners the give you (colase ) …i could poop for 9 days after because of the pain medication and ended up having to go to emerg to be disempacted which was the worst most embarrassing part of my whole experience!!!! I wish i had dealt with this before i left….next time i would insist on hoping before i left the hospital. I don’t want to scare you but i would have love for someone to warn me so things did not get so bad. (i should say the i was on Alot of pain killers because i ended up with a bad infection and hematoma, probably because it needed to be done so quickly) this shouldnt be a worry for you though. I know i don’t comment much but love your blog and am truly thinking about you and sending lots of luck! M

    • June 12, 2013

      That should have read ” could NOT poop” for 9 whole days afterwards and it would have been more if i hadn’t sought medical attention…i was in so much pain

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