This afternoon I’ll meet with Dr. Shannon to go over my new birth plan. I’m hoping she can help calm some of my fears about this surgery. I know that cesareans carry risks and I’m so scared I’ll fall into that small percentage. I’m preparing myself to be alert and aware of what is happening during the entire surgery. This is a big step for me, but something I feel quite strongly about. I was put under and then given a memory wiping drug after my D&C. Because of this I have no memory of my baby leaving and a year later it still haunts me. I need to remember Chicken being born and in order to do this, I need to come to terms with my fears of surgery.
Yesterday’s post drummed up a lot of inquiries for more information on family-centered cesareans so I wanted to share the video that started it all.
I watched this before I even knew Chicken was breech and it moved me to tears. Such simple changes made this once very cold clinical procedure much more memorable for the mother. I love that this doctor will drop the drape, too. Dr. Z will not due to fear of infection and I’m willing to let this wish go in return for having the rest of my requests met.
I’ve spoken with quite a few women lately about family-centered cesareans and have been pleasantly surprised that more hospitals are willing to try them. I cannot encourage women enough to talk to their doctors about their wishes should the need for a Plan B arise. Also, by planning in advance you can hopefully improve the experience should you find yourself facing an emergency cesarean. As far as I see it, the worst that can happen is your doctor gives you a flat out “no” and then you are left with the option to either find a new practitioner, or make peace with your situation.
I also wanted to share my birth plan with you all. I had at least one reader say she was going to print out my poorly worded post yesterday to bring to her doctor and it made the editor in me cringe. 🙂 Below is my Plan B birth plan. If you would like to print a copy and take it to your doctor to discuss options, please do and then let me know how it goes. I love hearing from readers, especially when they have been empowered to stand up for their beliefs!
And finally, thank you all SO MUCH for your suggestions on what to pack for a cesarean hospital stay! Seriously, your suggestions are a huge help. I was all set to pack shorts and tanks, not even thinking that I’d have an incision on my belly and might not want shorts rubbing it! I also had packed my regular thin pads, thinking that surely the bleeding after a cesarean is nothing like after a vaginal birth. Wrong again! My list now includes MONDO PADS OF DOOM and… gulp…. a small package of Depends. Yeah, Depends. I’ve been advised that I will be much more comfortable with these post surgery and feel more at ease knowing that I’m well protected from leaks. The suggestions to bulk up on fiber and prepare for poops from hell post surgery were also priceless. My rump has quite a bit of long-term damage from a lifetime of food allergies. Anything I can do to lessen the trauma of the first post-cesarean poo will be greatly appreciated by it, I’m sure. As soon as my bag is packed I’ll take some photos and share what I’m bringing. Until then, any other suggestions would be very much appreciated because CLEARLY I’m a little clueless going into this!