This video illustrates Sabine’s evening exhaustion. Sleepy fussy Bean, I hope you learn to sleep better in 2014!
I have reached the end of my rope. The bags under my eyes are taking over my face. My baby has bags under her eyes because she sleeps so poorly. I am strung out, exhausted and ready to take the big step.
We will be sleep training the first of January.
It pains me to do this, but seeing my kid with bags under her eyes while her little friends all look fresh and rested has pushed me over the edge. I feel that at six months we have a well-established relationship. She has developed new cries and fusses and is learning ways to manipulate me to get what she wants. She talks, laughs and clearly loves her parents. A few nights of cry it out sleep training is going to do so much more good for our relationship than bad. Or so I hope.
Before anyone lectures me on the evidence against CIO sleep training please take a minute to remember that every baby is different. Some folks sleep train at three months because their baby is ready for it. My baby was not ready for it then, but I can confidently say that we are at a point now that it is not just OK, but it is necessary. For my health. For her health. For my marriage’s health.
I also need to state that I am not expecting her to sleep through the night yet. Her good nights always include one nighttime feed where she guzzles both breasts. Clearly she is hungry and I am happy to wake up once a night and feed her. I am not happy to wake up three times a night to have her just comfort suck and then be up for the day at 3 a.m. I’m not happy to have her only nap fitfully in my arms during the day. We need quality naps and sound sleep. We need at least 8 hours of sleep a night. Not six.
Since 8 weeks we have had a very meticulous bedtime routine that includes lots of nursing to tank her up an hour before, a warm bath in the tub with Mommy (I bathe with her and we have a grand old-time), cuddles and jammies with daddy and then nursing/rocking to sleep. I have tried adjusting her bed time and the later the bed time the earlier she wakes in the morning. She sleeps and naps in her Merlin’s Magic Sleep Suit (a god-send device. I shudder to think how awful our sleep would be without the sleep suit). Moms of good sleepers, what is your bedtime routine like? Did you do any sleep training? If so, what method did you use and how did you like it?
I can’t wait to be done with this chapter of exhaustion. I’m ready to move on and blog regularly about all the amazing things Sabine and I do. I want to tell you about NYC and the challenges of living in 900 square feet (and sharing one bathroom with a man… good lord they leave a lot of hair… everywhere!) So I raise my evening beer to you all. May 2014 be filled with positive pregnancy tests, healthy deliveries and fabulous sleep for all my fellow exhausted mamas!