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Turns out size does matter

09/23/2014

Belle

* this will be short. Sabine does not give me much time to blog at the moment but I want to get this out there for input. I have another post in my draft folder about meeting with the amazing Mo, but alas, have yet to finish it. Maybe it will be a two post day… (or maybe not)

** Post now has to be put on hold because SOMEONE smells of poop… and it is not me… nor a cat…. ahem.

Ok, let’s try again. So it turns out size does matter. I took Sabine to meet with a well-known and well-respected pediatrician in NYC. Dr. O went over her records from the previous doctor, took her measurements and did an exam. Then she brought me into her office to talk. Never a good sign. She printed out Sabine’s growth charts and they were anything from “ok” like our last doctor had said.

** pause for warm milk **

**pause for three hours to take Sabine to the park, take her on a walk, stop for cookies, and to feed her cheese **

Her previous doctor had told me Sabine is “just fine” and is “following her own curve.” I never questioned or asked to look at the curves. It seems Sabine has fallen off the curve entirely and fell off around 9 months. She is now 14 months. She is so tiny she is often mistaken for a 6 month old. There are some days that I just want to lie. People stare in disbelief at this little tiny “6 month old” crawling and cruising and laughing and being awesome and then come up and ask, baffled, how old she is.

“She is 14 months,” I say proudly and then their faces fall. 14 months? Really? Sometimes I get judgmental looks (don’t you feed your kid?). Sometimes I get an encouraging statement that “she could still grow.” (I don’t think it matters one bit if she is short thankyouverymuch) Sometimes I get very rude questions – “What is wrong with her? Was she born premature?”

** Pause to make dinner **

** Long pause to sleep **

(back to post Tuesday at 10:20 a.m.)

Dr. O said this could just be Sabine living up to “her genetic potential” but since she has fallen so far off the curve (she was born at about 30% and at her “largest” was 45%) she wants to make sure. She recommended we see a pediatric endocrinologist to evaluate her for dietary problems and a possible growth hormone deficiency. I asked that Dr. O please also print the WHO growth chart in addition to the CDC chart since Sabine is a breast fed baby. She politely humored me and then pointed out that according to the WHO her height is actually even further off the charts.

The appointment left me sad and stressed. I don’t want something to be wrong with Sabine. I started researching heavily and learned that it is more likely that this is not a growth hormone issue, but a dietary issue. Sabine still nurses, a lot. She prefers warm milk over food any day. She has become a maddeningly picky eater and her list of “likes” is quickly dwindling. Some days all she eats are the muffins I make and warm milk.

I have gotten looks and comments from people that imply her problems are “because we are still breast feeding” and then helpful advice that formula will make it all better. I have to try hard not to laugh in their faces. Do you think I have not tried formula at this point? Of course I have. She rejects it. She rejects cows milk. She rejects everything. I made really yummy turkey, quinoa and apple meatballs last night for us. They were delicious, mild and perfect for baby. She took one nibble and threw it on the floor. She rejected her yummy boiled potato. She rejected her maple yogurt. Instead she ate a handful of black beans, half a muffin and half a veggie/prune pouch.

** Pause to deal with howling cat who is threatening to wake sleeping Sabine **

I try to do everything the books say to do: meals are at the same place every time (the family table) and Sabine eats when we eat. We include her in the meal when she allows, and offer her Baby Einstein when she needs something to help her sit still for the 30 minutes it takes to finish her tiny dinner. When she throws everything on the floor I try my hardest not to show my frustration. I have a “three offers” rule where I offer an item three times before moving on. We always start the meal with offering the most nutrient dense option and then go down from there. It always ends with her only eating beans or tofu and muffin and fruit/veggie pouch, though.

I DREAD having a medical professional tell me that I am doing this to my kid. I fear a doctor telling me to just load her up on highly processed “baby foods.” No judgement, but I just am not comfortable feeding my daughter this stuff. We are not out to “fatten” Sabine up. The problem is not that she is skinny. The problem is that she is barely growing. But she has chub and is meeting her milestones (albeit slower than her friends). She is sweet and so studious, inspecting everything she sees with the meticulousness of a scientist.

(For the record, we do offer some traditional baby snacks. Baby Mum Mum’s are crucial to keeping her happy in the store or car, Trader Joe’s fortified O’s, Ella’s Kitchen fruit and veggie pouches, Baby Bell Cheeses, and these wheat buttery crackers that she goes bonkers for.)

Adding to my worry is the fact that Sabine is still anemic, which floors me because of the few things she eats, they are all pretty good sources of iron – black beans, spouted wheat bread, tofu and I bulk her muffins with fortified baby cereal and molasses. We started an iron supplement three days ago and will go for a retest in a month. Hopefully we will see some improvement then. I’m also going to order a pound of grass-fed organic beef and see if she will accept this. I’m not getting my hopes up, though.

No one wants to have their parenting choices questioned or implications made that you are “starving” your kid. No one wants to be that first time parent in the doctors office going “What? You are supposed to be doing that? Why didn’t anyone tell me?” No one wants to be the mama of the baby who is the ONLY ONE not walking in her age group. No one wants to hear every. single. day. that her child is really tiny.

So mama’s of tiny babes – any advice? Anyone have a super picky eater and some tips for introducing new foods? Anyone give iron supplements? I feel like I might be doing everything wrong right now and could use some input! In the meantime, I hope you enjoy the above video of Sabine’s first time walking with a walker. Good lord she was into it. We have since gotten a little wooden wagon at home and she spends her days running laps in the house with it!

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  1. September 23, 2014

    I really think they may find celiac disease, which is so manageable. She sounds just like my niece who stopped growing at 10 months and was diagnosed 2 years later. I’m no doctor, just a biased auntie who went through the same stress with my sister 8-9 years ago. Very, very smart little girl, but tiny.

    Do you read A+ Effort (Mrs. T)? Her daughter, E, is finally getting help with eating issues after years of begging docs for help. Check her out!

  2. September 23, 2014

    Crap. This made me cry a little. My son is 13 months and so tiny. I have been swallowing my worries about this because like Sabine, he is doing so so awesome everywhere else. I get the same vague responses from our pediatrician as you got and now am wondering if I should push harder for more investigation.

    This morning I put him in pants that he wore in the spring with a cuff. Everyone goes on about how fast kids grow out of clothes but I just shrug.

    • September 23, 2014

      Amber! Me too! Sabine is just now in 6-12 month things and some are still too big. I decided to get the second opinion about it after the differences between her and her younger friends were becoming more and more clear. Don’t cry though, Mama, they are still young and have lots of time. You can email me anytime if you want to talk, too! xoxo

  3. September 23, 2014

    My son is almost 8 months old and often falls off the charts for weight. I had to start solids at 4.5 months since his weight percentile started dropping then. Right now he doesnt like much food and is very fussy so I have been eating a bit of high fat food in the hope that my milk gets fatter. It has been helping much. Another thing I do is make my own purees and add an avacado in it. I give him rice, dal and pressure cook with any veggie or two till its soft and mix in either an avacado or full fat cheese and feed him for lunch. I have been adding a lot of healthy fat in his food and that has got his weight back on the charts. Some babies are simply too active and babies need all the fat they can get for their brain. For iron, maybe you can take an iron supplement as well and feed Sabine an iron fortified cereal? Most importantly, dont take stress,you are a wonderful mom and Sabine is one lucky babe.

    • shinara #
      September 26, 2014

      Avocados are really good. Also, my german mom used to feed us spreadable liverwurst for iron throughout our childhood. It’s what we ate before going to bed at night. I know you don’t eat meat, but maybe you can fudge it a bit until she’s older. I started to give my little one some and he just about inhaled it. Same with veggie stew that has lamb chunks in it. Kefir is also good.

  4. Jaclyn #
    September 23, 2014

    I’m sorry – this must be so stressful for you. What percentage is she for weight?

  5. September 23, 2014

    I’m so sorry you’re in this stressful situation. I don’t know if it helps, but my good friend’s son didn’t walk (he barely even cruised!) until 16 months. And he was totally on the charts for height and weight. Are there baby nutritionists out there? I feel like if there are, NYC would be the place to have them!

  6. September 23, 2014

    Griffin is now 15 months and as of this morning finally reach 10kgs! I admit it,I cried when I saw it as we have been battling from day one in getting his weight up. He I has made his own little line all the way on the bottom of the growth chart and even though he continues to gain,he is nowhere near where he should be. And this is with him eating and drinking during the day and having up to three bottles during the night in his sleep. He rejected the breast at 10 moths and started formula then,which broke my heart as I really wanted to continue as long as possible but it did give him a little boost. He isn’t a fussy eater at all but he just isn’t gaining weight and I have no idea what more I can do after seeing 3 paeds and a nutritionalist. He also isn’t walking but is reaching all his other milestones regardless of his hearing issues. I’ve only just started him in 6-12 month clothes and they are still hugely baggy depending on the make. At this point I’m just introducing more snack foods on top of his regular meals,making sure he’s continuing to gain weight even if it’s teeny amounts and being thrilled with every growth spurt he has.Ill look email you a list of things I got told to give him by the dietician and maybe they will help with Sabine.Your definitely not alone though in having a small baby and the best advice I got given is to try not compare your child against other babies as each one is special and unique and the charts are just averages and rough guidelines.

  7. September 23, 2014

    Here in Iowa we have a free service called Early Access that can provide an occupational therapist to help you in introducing new foods for babies who are having a trouble trying new things or getting used to the texture of table food. Perhaps New York has something similar that your doctor could refer you to? My babies qualify for their premature birth but there are other standards of qualification and maybe weight or height could be one of them?

    • September 23, 2014

      I’m in Iowa too and used Early Access for speech. The state covers so many issues that I have to believe NY has this service too. All I had to do was call the public school, tell them my concern, and they sent someone out to us. Everyone qualifies for evaluation through the schools if the parent has a concern. They start with kids as early as 12-18 months.

  8. September 23, 2014

    Though I am horribly sorry you are going through such stress, I am also glad you posted this! My 5 month baby girl swims in her 0-3 month clothes for the most part and though she’s as tall as some of her 6-7 month friends, her skinnyness worries me; especially when all our other ebf baby friends are so much larger :/ I will definitely continue to keep an eye on her, despite my ped’s insistance that she’s fine. Speaking of my ped, she recommended iron supplementation at our 4 month appointment. I smiled and nodded but had no intention of supplementing as everything I have read says that the iron in breast milk is more bio available than any other source and that supplementing can interfere with absorption. But reading this makes me question my decision not to add the drops. It’s so hard isn’t it? We want to provide the most nutritious and natural start for our children and when doing so doesn’t yield results it’s confusing and frustrating. I have to say though, it sounds like you are doing an amazing job trying to feed you lil bean! Beans and tofu and homemade muffins? Those r nutrient dense foods for sure. So please don’t get down on yourself. You are an awesome mama and sabine is luck to have you! Maybe Courtney who posted about celiac is on to something. I have heard of growth retardation being a major indicator…. while you wait to find out what’s up, maybe adding fat could help, say ghee or coconut oil or avo to the beans/muffins etc. And perhaps a bone broth for iron? Just some ideas, though it sounds like you are doing all you can. Will be waiting to hear what strategies you use and what you find out!

  9. robin #
    September 23, 2014

    I KNOW how stressful it is that she isn’t walking when ALL the other babies are. But if she is hitting her milestones, she will walk. My kids didn’t walk until 17 months. They didn’t even cruise that much until probably 15 or 16 months. I was very very stressed out about it, I thought for sure it was something I was doing wrong. But now they walk, run, and can jump with two feet off the ground and not holding anything (pretty sure that is advanced for 2 years, and they could do it at 23 months). So what I am saying is that I don’t know that her not walking yet is part of her being tiny, since she is doing everything else and at a consistent time, even if it is behind the other kids. ❤ ❤ ❤

  10. Amy #
    September 23, 2014

    Good mothers work hard for their babies. Good mothers try their best to keep them healthy & provide the best. Good mothers fail, but keep on going! You are a good mother! I look forward to updates on this subject & hearing about your success-I’m sure it will come in time.
    My girl was born early with some major health issues. At 4.5 years she is still tiny, but healthy & normal otherwise. The comments do suck, I fibbed quite a bit when she was a baby to avoid the awkwardness. If it keeps you from getting your feelings hurt, do it! Even now, I find myself saying to people, ‘there are worse burdens in life than being a petite female!’ That usually gets them to not make comments in front of her.
    Good luck, I’ll be thinking of you!!

  11. September 23, 2014

    Belle, NOTHING in this post suggests that you are a bad mother. You are obviously doing everything you know to do–including taking her to a different pediatrician when you are worried there is a problem. I cannot give you any advice about what to do from a mother’s perspective (yet!), but I can tell you that you are a good mom. I hope that your appointment with the endocrinologist answers some questions and that you receive both reassurance as well as a game plan for how to move forward. We are all cheering for you and Sabine!

  12. jesicabrennan #
    September 23, 2014

    So…this is a tough one. The truth is that SOMEBODY has to represent the bottom of the scale just like somebody has to represent the top, so Sabine is representing the teeny tinys! I don’t know, it’s hard to know if there’s a problem. I know I’ve told you this before but Jett seriously didn’t eat for 4 months, from 12 months to 16 months his meals were a few bites of food and of course…breastmilk. Ultimately I wrote it off as teeth because when those 4 molars finally popped through at 16 months he started eating again. Now at 25 months he eats pretty good, can be picky but when he’s starving he can finish off more food than can possibly fit in his teeny tiny tummy! But he’s still only 25 lbs. barely into the 10th percentile. Of course if your doctor is concerned I would look into whatever she’s suggesting but Sabine being itty bitty doesn’t necessarily mean there’s a problem. Keep offering lots of foods and definitely keep giving her breastmilk!!! As to the iron, again Jett had the same issue and my Dr. recommended Floradix, which is a plant based iron supplement and Jett thought it was delicious =) Good luck, you’re a great mommy Belle, don’t ever think otherwise!

  13. September 23, 2014

    I am seconding the celiac prediction. The nice thing is that it’s pretty easily managed once you know what you’re dealing with. I have it and so does my niece — and my niece was only diagnosed after failing to grow.

    No matter what they find or don’t find, it is NOT your fault. At all. ever. In any way. In fact, you get extra mama points for listening to your instinct and taking her to a new pediatrician. Good job!

  14. September 23, 2014

    Miles didn’t walk till 14.5 months, Abby not till 16. Is Sabine just not interested in foods or does she seem to have an aversion to them? Maybe she has some oral motor weakness?

  15. annie #
    September 23, 2014

    It sounds like you are doing so much! Try not to blame or beat yourself up. She is so lucky to have you as a mom. My daughter fell off the curve around 9 months (when I went back to work, so I of course blamed myself for that). We started offering her food ALL THE TIME. It turns out, she likes to graze. Some days I am literally giving her something to eat every hour. I’m not saying this will make Sabine grow over night, but maybe her little tummy can only handle a little bit of food at a time. Now my daughter can handle larger meals, but she still gets 3-4 snacks a day. The girl basically lives in her high chair or walks around with food, which means I vacuum daily. Good luck!

    • September 23, 2014

      !! We vacuum almost daily, too! Between the O’s and the raisins and the cracker crumbs it is a constant struggle.

  16. September 23, 2014

    This sounds so stressful. I have no experience (yet!) but I’m thinking of you.

  17. September 24, 2014

    My guy isn’t tiny, but is small. He started in the 80/90th percentiles for height and weight when he was born and at each appointment slips a little. At 18 months he was down to 15/25th percentiles. I have gone back and forth between worrying, and just saying what will be will be. We pretty much do what you do, though since he has become a busy toddler, I gave up on requiring him eat when we eat and sit with us. That usually equates to us offering him the most nutrient dense items first and hiding his favorite things. (If he gets started eating his favorite homemade croutons he will eat nothing else). He usually takes a bite or two of those items, and then gets up to play. At that point we ‘play eat’ or basically catch him as he is running around the house and stuffing a little food in his mouth. It is a delicate balance between offering him food enough times that he eats a small meal and offering it too much to the point that he refuses just out of toddler control issues. On good days he eats enough, and is fairly happy at mealtimes, and sleeps through the night. On bad days he refuses everything we put in front of him, we resort to allowing him to eat croutons or goldfish crackers then he wakes at 4 am hungry. (He is 23 months now- not cool!) I feel for you. I hope you can find out what is making her eat so little. I do know that when H is teething he is a much poorer eater. I sometimes have given him Tylenol an hour before mealtime so he will be more likely to eat.

  18. September 24, 2014

    Thinking of you. We never dealt with tiny ness but did battle low iron. We gave iron drops for a few months and that improved it. Here are some iron tips:
    Calcium inhibits iron absorption, so don’t give any high calcium food/drink (including bm!) an hour before or after ingesting iron.
    Vitamin C helps the body absorb more iron, so try to give iron and iron rich foods with vitamin C. I would give her orange juice or a pouch with her drops.

  19. Karaleen #
    September 24, 2014

    It sounds to me like you are doing absolutely everything right. We cannot know EVERYTHING as parents. So don’t beat yourself up that you have tried several very smart things. My kids were never super picky…but my son has always been painfully thin and “appears” malnourished sometimes so I totally understand the “comments”. Believe me…we do everything we can to get our kids the nutrition they need to grow. Since it is well known around the world that breast milk should give the child pretty much everything they need up to age two…I really don’t think you nursing still is the crux of the problem. It also sounds like Sabine eats, just small amounts. I do like the comment from above about frequent snacks. If she likes cheese and crackers….those are great for calories and I’m sure her nutrition and vitimins are coming in several sources Do you give her a daily children’s vitimin? either in chewable or liquid form? Maybe adding that could help. My kids eat a variety of foods and I’m pretty sure they get enough different vitimins and minerals….but they always seem just a bit more healthy when we do the daily supplement. I did liquid when they were babies/toddlers and now we just do a couple gummy vitimins a day. I think having all that work together helps the body absorb more nutrients. Overall I think you are doing great. She is healthy and happy, just small. I love that you are open to trying new things…so don’t let all the “judgy judgy” parents or doctors get you down. Just go in there with a spirit of partnership and let them know what you have done so far but that you would love any additional information they have to help you and Sabine along.
    kd
    PS…my son had that same walker…..he terrorized the neighborhood with it! He didn’t walk until almost 16 months or so….but he could run with that walker and it was hillarious!!!!!

  20. Mary Ann #
    September 24, 2014

    I have twins that were born at 30w5d. So I’ve always been concerned about their sizes and “catching up.” It’s hard not to compare them to others and each other. My DS got on the curve pretty quickly. He’s usually between 25-50%. However, my DD took until almost 9 months to get on the curve and even then in the lower 5% on height and weight. The size difference is becoming very obvious now that they are 22 months. My DS is almost 3in taller than DD and he easily has 3lbs on her. DD even looks like a baby when you look at her. DS looks like a little boy. I’ve even had people comment that my kids must be really close in age. So they don’t look like twins anymore.
    We did have to use Early Intervention (free service that you should also be able to look into) for DD on her motor skills. She wouldn’t crawl at 12 months. We also learned that she had some sensory issues which also contributed to food issues. She spent far more time playing with food than eating it. We got an OT to work with us on eating. Turns out some sensory activity before food time worked. She was using food time to get sensory input. So I started doing anything that engaged the senses right before eating and she started eating better. I will say she’s starting to give me food issues again. I can’t figure out if she’s just showing food preferences or if it’s sensory stuff again. I do worry about her not eating and growing because she is so small already. Try doing some sensory activities before eating to see if maybe she’s just seeking sensory input through food. Our OT also told us to try ice water to wake up her taste buds and heighten the senses in DD’s mouth. She was known to put way too much food in her mouth, almost like she didn’t realize it was too much. The ice water helped that as well.

  21. September 24, 2014

    I’m glad you wrote this post too Belle! I hear so often that “babies are following their own curve” and that can be true and fine, but their curve should still mirror the growth curve of the CDC or WHO chart. Dylan has been small forever, but is slowly gaining on the chart as all of the other babies level off. My ped’s goal for is 20 pounds by 2 years which is in a couple of weeks and we are close, but I’m not sure if we will have hit it or not. I’m glad your current ped wants to see what’s going on. Maybe there is an underlying issue, maybe not, but it’s definitely important to know.

    At almost 2 years actual and 20 months adjusted, Dylan wears 3 or 6 month shorts and 9 month onesies, although he needs 12 to 18 month shirts and pajamas because his shoulders are getting wider and his torso longer, but he still has the tiniest little waist. Definitely don’t go by clothing size alone.

    Re: solids and milk and feeding in general, I add Whole Milk Powder to Dylan’s milk, but I also started limiting the amount of times he got milk during the day. At Sabine’s age, he probably got milk about 4 times, now at 20 months adjusted he gets milk just twice a day which has really helped up his solid food intake. I found switching to solids incredibly stressful…milk is so much easier! But it’s easier to increase the calories in solids, especially when she’s ready for smoothies (that took Dylan awhile). I add butter, oil, chia, flax, or PB to everything I can. At the very least, don’t offer milk until after a meal or even separate it from mealtimes altogether (I found that Dylan wouldn’t eat enough if he had milk and solids at the same meal…alternating worked better.) I also feed him 4 meals plus two one snack. Thinking of Breakfast, Lunch, After Nap, and Dinner all as actual meals, helped me ensure he was getting more than pretzels and fruit. (It was a mental thing for me.)

    Last re: walking. Dylan walked at 18.5 months. I know she’s used a push toy this week, so walking is not far off, I promise! The important thing is bearing weight on the legs and it sounds like she’s got that covered.

  22. September 24, 2014

    Vera is the opposite, she is a very big baby! She is 17 months old now. We are still breastfeeding and she is beyond %100 percentile in all areas. She is bigger, but not taller, than Elena my four year old! Some two year old sizes do not fit her. She could not wear any of Elena’s old 24 month size clothes. I worry a little, and of course if my doctor thought there was a problem I would get her checked out just in case. But do I think she will be an obese child, teen, or adult? Do I feed her sugar and cake every day? Absolutely not. Should I deprive my daughter of certain foods like healthy fats? I don’t think so as long as it’s a balanced and healthy diet..Should I immediately wean her from the breast so she isn’t “drinking her calories” so to speak? That would be unfair to her as I nursed Elena till she was 2. I feel babies are all different, and maybe Sabine just needs to catch up while Vera needs to remain the same (get taller and not rounder since her last check up she was 34 pounds!) Get her checked, but try not to worry right now.

  23. September 24, 2014

    You are doing everything right. Do not beat yourself up. I have a bit of the opposite problem in someway is as my daughter was born very large and has stayed in the 95th percentile or more all along the way. That being said she doesn’t eat that much. She nursed exclusively for the first year and then nursed for comfort and at night until 3 1/2. She is turning five and still is not completely weaned. If she falls down, if she is very stressed… It is her first reaction and now we are looking at it as a habit to break. She has always been an extremely picky eater. She eats less now than she did as a younger child. If she hadn’t consistently eaten cottage cheese all along the way I have no idea how she would’ve gotten her protein.

    When she entered preschool at 3 1/2 it was discovered that she has a speech issue having to do with low tone in her tongue. It is completely addressable through therapy but also may be part of the reason why textures bother her so much.

    I thought to myself that your daughter is such a wonderful eater when you describe all the things she eats here.

    I beat myself up all of the time for the fact that my daughter isn’t mid range on some percentage scale worrying about what that might mean for her future.

    I don’t have much advice other than just sounds like you found great providers that you trust. You are in the information gathering stage and that’s wonderful taking care of your daughter.

    Pam

  24. Lisa @ hapahopes #
    September 25, 2014

    First of all, she’s SO OKAY on the walking front. She nowhere near delayed and with how she’s pushing that cart – she’s on the right track. I would not worry about that if I were you.

    Second – you are doing AWESOME! Obviously you are doing everything you can and are not slacking one bit.

    Third – I have the same concerns about Annie and I’m a bit anxious since her pedi is on maternity leave and we’re seeing someone other than the-doctor-who-always-makes-us-feel-like-it’s-no-big-deal for her 12 month visit. At her 9 month, she had started to level off and there was the start of a tiny concern. They told us to give her plenty of good fats, so she gets cheese, avocado, peanut butter, and yogurt as often as we can shove it in her. She’s not a picky eater, though, and is apparently the best eater in her daycare class, which makes me worry even more. Like Sabine, she’s not “skinny,” she’s just tiny all around. Docs tend to just chalk it up to J and I being small, but the fact is that neither J nor I were ever checked for growth hormone deficiencies. If Annie doesn’t catch up, we have no qualms about having her tested and treated if necessary. Even our moms have asked us if we plan to do that because they regret not pushing it with us. (Just a little perspective from small adults and the people who raised them).

    We get the same comments you do when my 5 month old sized 11 month old is yelling “Hi ya!” at everyone in Target, only they are couched with “Well, I guess she’s petite like you!” We’ve been told that she too is “following her own curve,” but at her 9 month visit, she was a bit farther off the curve. My mom has noted that she is already smaller than I was at her age.

    Anywho, you are not alone, but you are doing everything you can!!!!!! That’s what matters most.

  25. heatherwallen #
    September 25, 2014

    Hi Belle, Haven’t commented for a long time but we corresponded once about some sort of baby gear and using Craigslist (maybe stroller?) to find deals while we were both pregnant. I got preggo w/ my twins the same week you did with Sabine. Our twins, born 8 weeks early, are now 16.5 months. They caught up to the growth curve pretty quickly and are sort of bruisers (which, sadly, I attribute greatly to the crappy milk protein allergy friendly corn syrup solids laced formula they drank for 7 months) on the weight front. HOWEVER eating is a big struggle for our little girl. She is not open to new foods. She will not let a new food pass her lips — she just shakes her head and makes a noise like she is blowing the food away. At this point she survives on organic whole milk, Barilla Plus pasta with olive oil, a few carrots here and there a piece of toast now and again and fruit. Randomly she kind of digs mild chili with tiny cut veg and lots of beans. We persist with introducing new foods but it is a tough and frustrating slog. Someone else above mentioned Early Intervention to check out developmental progress — I strongly second that recommendation 🙂 We just had our kiddos evaluated by our county’s “Birth to Three” program and it was a revelation, not an entirely reassuring one, but a very, very good grounding as to where the kids are vis a vis milestones. I just always feel like the trips to the pedi’s office don’t capture much and the time that therapists can spend in your home watching and interacting with your baby are a totally different experience. Also re walking — our little boy walked at 12.5 mo / 10.5 mo adjusted and our little girl JUST started walking about two weeks ago at 16 months. A close friend of mine with twins the same age as our kiddos was a Division One athlete in college and she reminded me while I was angsting over this issue that she didn’t walk until 18 months! Hang in there. Hugs

  26. September 26, 2014

    My Aunt’s girls were very tiny as babies. So much so that they had to get their wrist bones scanned every so often to make sure they were growing. Turns out they are just petite but perfectly healthy girls. They developed right on time in every way except height/weight. They too were quite picky and didn’t eat much. Not sure how helpful that is for you but I just want you to know that she still very well may be just fine.

    I’m sure you probably have tried it but avocado is high in healthy fats as well as coconut oil. I use a children’s liquid vitamin with Tru sometimes too just for the extra vitamins. I think it is great that you are still breast feeding!! What is more nutritious that breast milk after all?! And for what it’s worth, Tru dropped percentiles by a good bit once he started being more mobile and even switching to formula (my milk dried up when I got pregnant) didn’t make him gain any more weight so.. It’s definitely not the answer even though it’s what everyone suggests. :/

  27. jak #
    October 2, 2014

    ASSVICE WARNING: beef, beef, beef!!! also, spinach with BUTTER, REAL BUTTER and a little salt. give it to her to play with and make a mess and feed herself with her hands. not pureed and shoved in her mouth with a spoon. the things you mention don’t contain iron that is as readily bioavailable as that from beef. i know from your posts that you have dietary restrictions – this is assvice and i will tell you so up front – and it doesn’t sound like you do this, but, be careful not to impose your own dietary boundaries on your kid in the event that their body is truly craving something your body does not tolerate. more assvice – i dont think nursing is a problem. i still nurse my kid who is less than a week older than your kid, 2x/day. but i do think from reading LLL weaning stories that some moms tend to really push breastfeeding and offer feedings very frequently even when the kid isn’t bitching for it and trying to rip your shirt off, and perhaps this kind of frequent breast-offering interacts with the switch to a more routine and less “on-demand” schedule of communication between the stomach and the brain. like perhaps the bean isn’t getting hungry when kids her age would normally get hungry because she does “drive-in” or “drive by” nursing frequently during the day? ASSVICE OVER.

    NOT ASSVICE: get her checked out metabolically and genetically, which it sounds like you are doing. all that shit i typed up there under assvice is probably just that, shit. height is codominant. you and your husband are not short. you are tall and strong and healthy. there are very few reasons for tall, healthy people to have small kids and those should be investigated. get doc to check for conditions that are associated with anemia and/or short stature/slow physical growth in the presence of very normal psychological and motor skills development.

    good luck mama!!!

  28. October 7, 2014

    I really hope your girl turns out just fine but petite. I don’t know exactly what you are going through, but I do know what it’s like to think something is wrong with your baby and be blown off only to find out that maybe something really is wrong after all. I hoe you get answers quickly. If you aren’t satisfied, keep pushing until you are. I went through what I believe is the worst thing possible and somehow survived, so if you ever need someone to vent to or an extra shoulder to cry on, I’m around.

  29. JAY #
    October 9, 2014

    Aww, this has to suck. I was a picky eater—and my mom had to contend with something like this. Try goat milk, the myenberg brand off amazon. The amazon reviews have a lot of reviews talking about good growth once they started it. Also try sneaking in some extra virgin coconut oil in it—that is very nutritious.

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